Are all husbands this annoying?

[albatrossfeather]

I've been married 13 years, my OH seems to be getting increasingly negative as the years have gone on. Nothing seems to interest/ excite him. He works long hours in what he says is a stressful job. He constantly tells me how hard it is but to be honest it doesn't sound that hard, and its not like he deals with life and death every day, he's just a manager in a manufacturing plant. I've even given up asking how his day went because he never says anything other than it was awful.
I wouldn't mind so much but he refuses to do anything about it, he wont look for another job and when I've discussed how to beat stress with him he just says nothing works for him, but he wont try anything, he just automatically knows that nothing will work!!! , which leads me to not be very sympathetic with him, which he than says I obviously don't care. Aaarrgh it's so annoying. It's like he likes being miserable so he doesn't want to find a solution and I find it so draining that I dread him coming home from work as it's like having a grey cloud walk into the room.
Are all husbands like this as they get older? (mine is approaching 50), he didn't used to be this bad, although he was always a glass half empty person. I find myself looking at other couples wondering what it would be like to be married to someone who actually makes the most out of life.

@FizzyGreenWater Wow - love the strong words. I am so not as strong as that, I go between feeling sorry for him and wanting to kick his ass. Thank you for saying my feelings matter, they do and I often forget that and then wonder why I feel like a doormat. I've also thought that I would love to be a fly on the wall.
@Josette77 - No I don't have a stressful job. I love what I do, but then looking back over past jobs, I've never been one to get stressed and I can always switch off at the end of the day, he can't, we have very different outlooks on life.
@Frenchw1fe Think you are right - he just likes complaining. Definitely going to try the sympathetic noises for a week and see how that goes.
@Feawen You sound like you have a lovely healthy relationship with a great partner/mother and I think what you said is right about the problem solving coming across as criticism - I didn't find it annoying. I appreciate the advice. Maybe you should be a relationship expert - you seem to talk more sense than me.
Thanks everyone - some great ideas and different ways of viewing a situation. I would soooooo like to be a fly on the wall though to see what really goes on. That would be my superhero power if I could have one. Cheers all.