I have nothing, I have debt which is serviceable from my job at the family firm, I live in a house connected to the firm. I have no family or friends that can help.
I believe I am in an abusive marriage due to my husband's depression. Even when he is 'well' he is critical, won't help around the house, won't cook, clean expects all meals to me made, doesn't help financially despite knowing how little I earn and expects me to pay for everything. He is critical about my appearance and delights in humiliating me. We only ever do what he wants. When he is depressed he does absolutely nothing, won't help with the children, won't engage with me nothing. Everything is someone else's fault. He threatens to harm himself if things don't go his way. I don't know if he will or not. He won't do therapy tho does take medication but won't do anything to protect his mental health in his up periods.
I've started telling people that he has been off work due to poor mental health and now I'm seen as a monster for wanting to leave him. I accept he is ill but I can't make him better and he doesn't seem to want to get better.
How do I start the process, what do I do. I can't live like this anymore but I will honestly have nothing, I can cope with that but the kids will also have nothing.