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Unhappy and feeling guilty and alone

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Mummy97 · 23/02/2020 18:19

Hi, I'm on here as theres no one I want to discuss my worries with in my personal life.
Essentially I've been with my partner for 4years, we're in our early mid 20s and we have an 18month old DD, we've been engaged for 3 of those years, have a mortgage together, both work and live rather comfortably.
He suffers from a rare form of genetic diabetes which is difficult to control, however, he doesnt attempt to control it and his health is awful now, hes always got high sugars and feels grumpy and has splitting headaches.
On top of this, his mother and I are fairly certain he has some mental health issue that he needs professional support with (we live in the UK so it wouldnt even cost us) but he has convinced himself he is simply destined to feel this way no matter and wont seek support. He has also convinced himself that I'm going to up and leave any minute. Now I have no desire to leave him, I love him. Bit I'm not happy anymore, I feel like a single parent and he gets crap and then hides in our bedroom. My weekends are pretty lonely, just me and our DD while he over sugars because he knowingly ate crap that raises his blood sugar.
I just need advise on how to deal with this, I'm very close to asking for a break so I can be free of all the guilt of feeling unhappy while hes sick (but self inflicts it!) And just enjoy my own time. (But I know I'll feel guilty saying I need a break). I'm very much alone as my parents have moved over seas and I have no other family near by. Thank you in advance.

OP posts:
yesterdaystotalsteps123 · 23/02/2020 18:51

He is emotionally manipulating you. You are entitled to leave any relationship for any reason. Don't let him take advantage of your nice nature. He is an adult and it is up to him to manage his conditions and if he chooses not to he is a fool if he thinks it won't impact on you and your emotional health and wellbeing. You are very young. Do not stay in an unhappy situation. Your needs are important. Your DD needs a happy healthy mummy!

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