Should I leave my boyfriend for becoming 'too comfortable'?

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I feel I’ve become to comfortable in my relationship after a year and half of being together.I know the honeymoon period doesn’t last forever and I’ve accepted this however I’ve become too comfortable.I never dress up around him when we go out I put on clothes I’m going to be comfortable In rather than clothes I feel attractive in , I never ever flirt with him , I , I don’t show him that much affection, I’m never in the mood to have sex with him , I don’t tidy my room when he comes over like I used to , I’m not remotely bothered by what he thinks of me eg my appearance or the way I am, I don’t get any sort of exited feeling when Im with him on holiday ect , I feel I’ve become too comfortable and i see him as my best friend rather than my boyfriend which then leads to me to feel strange when we have sex as I feel like I’m having sex with someone I shouldn’t be.However is this A bad thing and should I end the relationship based off this or is it not much of an issue? Because i can’t imagine being without him and the thought of not being together hurts however can I carry on like this ?. I know it’s having an effect on him as he’s mentioned things before however I’ve tried to change some things eg flirting and having sex frequently/initiating it but it just hasn’t worked .

Are you content or are you bored?

Science shows that women lose sexual interest in their partners much faster than men — between one and four years things start to feel stale for us, while men don’t start to feel bored until year nine. Have you had an honest conversation about your desires? Have a few. Keep talking. You need to show each other new facets of your sexuality or it will gradually settle into a friendship — which is great, but not after a year and a half.

.I never dress up around him when we go out I put on clothes I’m going to be comfortable In rather than clothes I feel attractive in , I never ever flirt with him... , I don’t tidy my room when he comes over like I used to... , I feel I’ve become too comfortable* all of that is fine

HOWEVER

I don’t show him that much affection, I’m never in the mood to have sex with HIM... I don’t get any sort of exited feeling when Im with him on holiday ect ,... rather than my boyfriend which then leads to me to feel strange when we have sex as I feel like I’m having sex with someone I shouldn’t be.
is definately concerning. It isn't fair on either of you to carry on like that, he'll propose and you'll go along with it cos you don't want to lose him and then there will a couple of kids and it will be so much harder to find love and passion.

Sounds like the relationship has run its course. I've been with dp for 5 years and still have butterflies, excitement etc and fancy the pants off him.

I think you need put your feelings aside and think about his and end it with him.
You'll miss him but he'll get easier in time. It's not fair to keep him in a relationship that isn't going anywhere.

He'll was meant to say it

Sound unhappy all round. Any kind of spark? I think if you let it carry on you'll just resent each other

It sounds like your desires for him have run dry, and you haven't been together that long. My long term partners have always given me butterflies after years of being together.

You will find that person, it's just not with him.