40 and disfigured dating

[Shelly7940]

Hi I recently posted here about a relationship I was in he has since broke up with me and I'm really upset about that....now I'm left feeling I've zero hope of finding a loving relationship as I'm 40 and have a disfigurement I lost my eye to a tumour as a baby but have to wear a patch now so I knew I'd always have a problem finding men to accept me so any man I've dated I've clung onto as i think i should be grateful they are dating me and i know its absolutely the wrong attitude but realistically my chances are slimmer to find a partner like this....my question is do you think I've any hope of finding a partner at this age or should i give up

Give up?? Dont be crazy. You've got a disfigurement....so do A LOT of people.....who go on to find love. You are expecting no one to want you and probably giving out those vibes. A man worth his salt would go way beyond looking at your disfigurement. I can fully understand it must knock your confidence but don't let it kill your hope and your chance of love. You're only 40, not 80, and even if you were 80 I'd still say get out there.

You're here once. Be honest in your profile if dating online, be confident and try and own it....rather than letting it define you.

Be brave op. Good luck

Oh my, of course you will find someone and they will be grateful for getting the chance to date you! Don't give up hope 🤞🏻

Have you registered on any dating sites OP? X

Hey, I know it’s not quite the same but both myself and my (super hot) partner have both dated people who used wheelchairs, these relationships didn’t work out (luckily for us) and none of the reasons were due to their disability. I’ve also been on a date with a man with a significant birthmark on his face- what attracted me to both these men was their sense of humour and acceptance of their uniqueness. You’ve lived through a major life trauma and that’s attractive! Good luck and enjoy it, anyone worth their weight in salt wouldn’t care less!

Hey I'm a guy over 40 yo who still has 2 baby teeth never fell out. Id over look a woman's "flaws" if she overlooks mine.

I dated someone in a wheelchair. The reason why we broke up really wasn't because of that. I'm not perfect and I don't expect anyone else to be, just compatible and kind.

Don't lose hope OP.

You have dated people at all ages and why should this stop now ?

in fact the older we are , many of us get wiser and more self aware and it should be easier

good luck with your journey x

Never give up, but the most important thing above everything else is to like yourself. If you can do that, you’ve cracked it, and people will be drawn to you.

Beauty comes from within.

My first husband had multiple deep scars across his face and forehead, acquired after a very bad motor cycle accident. Never bothered me in the slightest, mostly I never even thought about them.