Fairly amicable split from my ex husband about a year ago. 3 dc who live with me. I met someone online last year and it's been going well, even though we only see each other about once a week (both work ft, he also has 3 dc, live in another town (less than an hour away and work near each other, but still, both busy).
I love him and can see us staying together and eventually introducing dc, living together etc etc. No rush for me but that's what I want in the future and I'd like it to be with him.
He's worried about his dc meeting someone new and how it might affect them if it didn't work out in the end. He wishes we'd met years ago before we met our exes and had dc together. He thinks we'd be really happy.
As it is though, he says that he hopes we stay together but he can't promise that he won't hurt me years down the line. He can't imagine introducing me to his dc at any point in the next few years because if it didn't then work out then they'd be hurt.
I don't want to rush things for my dc either but I'm not as terrified as him. There are no guarantees in any relationship. He seems to be afraid of the risk though.
I know he really cares for me and we're a good match. We're really happy together.
Don't know what I'm asking really. I suppose it's whether I should stay with him in the hope it does work out and risk being hurt. Or should I cut my losses now and be totally heartbroken and always wonder "what if?" I love him, I really do, and I think he feels the same. He's just trying to be honest - can't blame him for that really.
What to do?