Ex gave me STI but didn't have it

[Username109876]

He was the only person I had slept with at that time, I had only ever kissed other men.
One day whilst recieving my new contraceptive pills, I was offered an STI test.
I was fairly sure I didn't have anything but took the test, and was later told I had chlyamidia.
He was required to be tested too as a result , and he told me his came back negative.
It's over now so doesn't matter, but I do wonder what could have happened. I had had no sexual contact with anyone else, I must have got it from him. He had slept with people before me.
It just makes me wonder if he lied to me/cheated.

I was a virgin before him yes. Can really do without guys like that who aren't mature or honest enough.

I thought your own immune system could cure chlamydia? Not common but I'm sure I read it could happen. I'll have a google to see if I imagined that or maybe someone said it and it wasn't true.

Oh lots of conflicting stuff on line, this seems to suggest what they call spontaneous resolution does happen. www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3654745/ Obviously not a good idea to just assume it will happen as it looks like a minority and also damage could happen while waiting but in regards to OP's ex maybe this happened? The timescale would be relevant.

@Username109876
@TheReef

Are you the same person??? If not, why are you, @thereef, answering innte 1st person?

No it's 2 different posters, maybe it's possible that happened re the immune system think but he probably was just a liar. I'll be asking partners to get tested from now on, but even then how can you prove they aren't lying, unless you ask to see paperwork etc ?

The OP says in 3 different ways in her OP that she had not had sex with anyone else.

“He was the only person I had slept with at that time”

“I had only ever kissed other men”

And
“ I had had no sexual contact with anyone else”

He lied. Just forget about it and move on. And please take responsibility for your own personal health and use condoms. It could have been something far worse.

OP he probably is a liar but it could be his immune system or the test could give a false negative, I don't know how likely that is but nothing is 100% the big thing is you will never know for sure if he's lying but you do know you got it from him. He is gone and even if he lied it doesn't mean everyone lies. It must have been horrible for you to find you had the infection but be kind to yourself, it could happen to just about anyone. You've had the treatment so try to just put it behind you and move on.

He's an ex OP so I wouldn't get bogged down in whether he cheated, he may well have done, or he might have had an STD from a past encounter.

Either way a lucky escape from someone who is so immature that they engage in sex with partners and don't regularly get tested as a matter of precaution. He is presumably lying anyway to spite you and to hide his embarrassment, as I highly doubt you are a medical miracle. He sounds pretty grim regardless.

If you've been anywhere near him since, get retested. Next time ask them roget tested before you sleep with them and ask to see the evidence. It's not worth the risk.

I had a very similar thing many years ago, went to get pill and found out I had chlamydia. My then bf was a virgin when I’d met him so I must have had it for a few years and not known. He went and got the antibiotics and they did a full screen on him. Came back completely clear. My next test did too and I mentioned to nurse my bf somehow hadn’t caught it from me, and we’d been together a couple of years, she said it wasn’t unheard of.
If you’ve been with other people, you may have had it without knowing.

Did he claim to be a virgin before you?

If not, it’s more than likely that he’d contracted it from a previous partner and that he just didn’t see any symptoms, as most men don’t.

That doesn’t mean he hasn’t lied about the test, but it may mean he didn’t cheat on you (if it makes any difference).

He gave you Chlamydia for sure and probably still spreading it around as we speak.

Always use condoms with a new partner until you've both been tested.

He could have contracted Clamydia with a previous partner before you but not realised he had it when he had a sexual relationship with you.
Because he didn’t realise he had it before, he’s embarrassed he has it now, and is making the assumption you gave it to him. Some people literally believe that if they have no symptoms, they must not have an STI. He possibly hadn’t even been for a test at all.

When I had it there were two options for treatment, either a one off antibiotic tablet, or a course of them. I took the one tablet, retested after about 6 weeks I think and was cured.

He could well be clear now if he had symptoms and snuck off for treatment without telling you (before you found out he’d infected you!). It would raise questions had he told you what a set of antibiotics were really for, rather than the “sore throat” or whatever.

Maybe he had antibiotics for something else during your relationship which would also have cured the chlamydia (which he probably didn't know he had - just as you didn't).