I don't know what to do.

[Chimpanzy]

Hi

Me and my husband have been together for 13 years. We have 2 children 9 & 11. I'm so unhappy, we haven't had sex for years and he barely considers me at all. We don't see to agree on anything. He's becoming more serious and I'm becoming more relaxed. We both work full time and I look after the house and the children. He will always be the better half.. Doing everything apparently.

He never can accept what I say... Can be as small as I'm cold... Well he's not so I can't be, or as big as discussing things for our family. Today we had a big row. I can't accept it anymore he's disregard for me and my feelings or opinions. He's not the man I thought he was. Even my children are worried about me... They too feel they can't talk to him... Trouble is I have nowhere to go.... My mum lives hours away.

Please help. X

It sounds grim, no wonder you want to leave. Surely you need to see a solicitor? You can leave, but you need to plan it carefully. You will surely be entitled to a share of the assets, especially if the children choose to live with you. Legal advice is the first step, then you can think about money. And anyway if you work full time, you can stand on your own feet (depending on earnings you might be entitled to benefits). Can you speak to any friends in confience, the meantime?

Good advice above.

Plan, plan and plan.
Get all paperwork to do with house, income, assets and pensions copied and safe. Passports too.

Stop being loyal to the twat.
Get support IRL and vent here.

Once you get a start forming a plan you will feel more in control.

Powerlessness is the worst feeling ever.

You can do this.
The fact that you are working is such a help.

Get good legal advice, copy all documents, find paperwork for all assets including pensions savings etc. Then tell him you’re not going to live like this anymore. It will be hard but so much better

And put yourself first for a change OP. Life is short and you are worth far far more.