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Should I say anything?

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bathsh3ba · 22/02/2020 11:37

About two years ago I met a guy through a dating website linked to our shared faith and there was an instant attraction. At the time I had been separated 4 years and was mid-divorce. We agreed it wasn't really appropriate to date before my divorce came through so we stayed friends but with a stated intention to date.

As my divorce came through, the guy told me his depression had resurfaced, he was having a really tough time and he wasn't in a place to be in a relationship. He wanted to stay friends.

At first I assumed this was an excuse but actually he has remained single and we have stayed friends. We live two hours apart but see each other about once a month, chat a few times a week and he likes all my posts on social media. He has been a good friend through some tough times and I hope I have been to him too. We've never even kissed so it's not as if he is stringing me on for sexual purposes.

We are both in a better place now and I think the attraction is still there on both sides. We have both stayed single.

Should I suggest a date or just keep it friends?

OP posts:
Musti · 22/02/2020 11:52

It seems like uoure almost waiting for him, so yes, suggest a date and if he comes up with an excuse, then you can move on. Though tbh, I think if he'd been interested, he would have said something. Just because he's not interested in anyone else, doesn't mean he's interested in you.

PennyGold · 22/02/2020 11:54

Life is too short not to!
I'd maybe suggest going out for dinner (don't have to specify that it's a date) and see what happens!

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