How long till you knew you loved them?

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Sure it's been asked before but... how long were you seeing someone before you knew you loved them?

For me it was a matter of weeks.
Less than 2 months for sure.

We told each other we loved each other after 2 weeks. Now four months in and very much head over heels

Someone told me they loved me on the 3rd date and got a bit tearful at the strength of their feelings...

I'd dumped him by 4 months for showing, unequivocally, that he didn't love me (surprise, surprise).

I wouldn't trust a declaration of love before 6 months as an absolute minimum. Having strong feelings for someone isn't the same as loving them.

After about 2 weeks. He proposed after 2 months and we got married 5 months after meeting. Still happy 40 years later

@FromTheEarth sorry to hear that. I have always been very sceptical about people saying that they have fallen in love so quickly. But it really has happened with us, we are going from strength to strength and could t be happier

We had a fairly intense start to our relationship, but fate told he me was ‘the one’ from day one even when I was too scared to believe it was true. He declared love by about week 6, I said it by about week 8, but more because I believed I should than because I felt it in my gut. Ten years later, I am immensely grateful that he was braver with his feelings than I was...we’re now married with children and huge plans for the future, and I can’t imagine doing it with anyone else...

To add...I always used to get annoyed by that that phrase ‘my other half’....but now I kind of I get it. I’m not less by having a husband, but we complement each other so fully - he is the brave to my nerves, I am the caution to his bravado, he is the detail to my ideas...I’m not claiming life is perfect, it still takes work, but what we’ve achieved together is far more than the sum of what we would have ever achieved alone.

Quite a while to be honest. At least a year. I was very young though, not sure if that makes a difference. We’ve been together for 13 years now though.

With dh, probably after about 3-5 months. We had quite an intense relationship early on, but I sort of refused to see it as anything but casual initially. We’ve been very happily married for 11 years now.

I knew in the first 5 minutes....soon hooked him into my plan 😂 been married 3 years now!

About 3 months?

A couple of weeks because we were teenagers and caught up in the excitement. 14 years later and still in love

I'm old and I still don't really know what it means. I think i confuse infatuation/love/dependency/deep friendship.

If someone can explain I'd be very grateful.

With dp, 10-12 months.

With my exh, 3 months.

Imo the quicker you fall, the more risk that you're falling for an imagined ideal, rather than the actual person in front of you.

Sometimes you're lucky and what you imagine is close enough to the actual person. Sometimes you're less lucky.

With ex 4 days.
With dh more than a year, 40 years ago.
Ex revealed himself to be an arsehole, dh didn't.
It's so, so easy to mistake lust for love, although dh started with lust too, so it's confusing and unpredictable.

We knew early on but didn't say the 3 words until 6 months! Very happy now over 5 years later, engaged and we have a baby.

I know a couple who said the 3 words (so obviously also 'knew') on the first day they met. Got engaged within a couple of months. Over 6 years later and very happy - married with children!

About 3 weeks after officially getting together, had been talking online for 2 weeks before that and had met 7 weeks before that so 12 weeks after meeting but only about 3 weeks into the relationship. Blissfully happy together over a year later and it just keeps growing.

I knew I loved him straight away (he was already a very dear friend), but I'll admit it was bizarre going from platonic to romantic love. There was no single point where the love just switched from friend-love to boyfriend-love. It didn't feel like the love got any stronger since I valued him so much already, but I believe the love slowly spread across the realms of intimacy, commitment and passion. The more we got to know each other on a deeper level the more our love became grounded and secure.

3 months but realistically i know you cant love someone for maybe over year or two as you simply do not know them.

By the second date. We said it at the end of the date. We moved in together after two months and we have been together for 3 years and 3 months. We will be getting married later this year. I know people say soul mates etc are not real but the way I felt about my fiance was like something I never felt before, very very strong feelings and we were so drawn to each other. We both said a few months later that we almost felt afraid of these feelings because of the strength of them and how deeply we love each other.

You can have strong feelings straight away but you have to really know someone's true character for love to grow. And few of us are 100% ourselves to begin with. That's why friendships that turn into relationships can be great.

It too me a while to admit I loved my DP. Well over a year. Deep down I think maybe within the first 3 months.

The moment we walked round the corner and saw each other for the first time. He says the exact same thing. My stomach still flips when I walk over the same spot on a weekly basis in town because I 'see' it all over again swoons

I told him about 3 weeks after we first met. I didn't mean to but I'd had a few drinks and it kind of slipped out. Luckily he felt the same. A year later we're still together. And both mid-late 40s so old enough to know what we feel

It was around three months when we first both said it. We chatted for two weeks before meeting (met through OLD). First date I was incredible and we both came off the site the next day as we just knew we wanted to give things a shot with each other. Definitely the lust was immediate, but the love grew and grew and he still surprises me with his his kindness and sweetness every day.