My heart still aches for him ...

[handyandy1]

We separated 8 years ago, married 20 plus years, haven’t set eyes on him for 6 years, met an amazing man who I love very much, yet I ache for him. My heart, my body, my mind literally aches for him. I very occasionally hear about him, see a picture on social media and I’m back there, loving him, my heart skips a beat, my tummy turns, my knees wobble, I need to catch my breath. I delayed getting remarried because of these feelings as unfair on current partner. Exh moved to the other end of the country to be with OW. He wasn’t a great husband. We have two adult children who have nothing to do with him. Yet ... if he walked through the door and asked to reunite I couldn’t say no. How can I stop feeling like this? Can it ever go away? I despise how I feel. Has anyone been in this situation and stopped feeling like this, or do I live with these feelings for forever?

I suppose it's like a first love thing. I dont even like my first love but if I heard he joined the army I'd probably sign up or something, just to 'protect' him.

Dread the day he gets married. And my love was entirely unrequited. So I can only imagine how hard it must be when you have good memories with the person.

I think of it as just that we are on different paths. He wouldn't have been good for me anyway. Sounds like the same thing goes for you.

I know how you feel. 😔💔

Do you think it's fair on your current partner if you're still head over heels for your ex?

Maybe focus on the reality for your split. Why did it happen? Are you perhaps in love with the ideal of him, rather than the real him? Is it perhaps a case of the grass is greener?