Is taking up hillwaking the only answer?!

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I'm trying to date and it's going miserably.

I'm not stick thin and glamorous but I'm not consciously uncool enough to be a hipster. I am too religious for atheists but not religious enough for church groups. I'm too serious but I'm not geeky enough. I'm too health conscious but not sporty enough.

The men I'm most attracted to are the hillwalking types but I absolutely hate the outdoors.

I thought all this tribalism would stop with high school :(

Camping definitely not for me

There is walking, hill-walking and then again the kind of 3-5 day stalking across the gnarlist peaks in the nastiest weather that my hubby prefers.

We compromise. I do walking - love NT estates, some hill walks -as long as it is only a few hours and they feature a decent cafe or pub at the end. I do not join him for the 3-5 day horrendous walks via the worlds most basic bothies in driving rain and sleet across peaks even hill sheep refuse to consider.

That kind of acceptance and compromise of each other has worked well so far. If your drawn to hillwalkers there may be another hill walking male, who 'gets' a female who does some walks but not all walks. that likes you for being you.

OP you clearly have an amazing sense of humour as you just made me laugh with the comment on the net and tranquilliser! Sorry nothing useful to add about dating but you are sure to find soneone as you clearly have charisma.

I’m loving this thread

Ooo learn to embrace a good suffer fest! You'll have the best hot tea and hot sex ever after it!

I joined the local YHA walking group when a long term relationship ended. Weekend walks and monthly overnight stays - a good walk with pub tea and a drink. At the meetings I met a bloke who started going out with a girl who became my friend. She introduced me to her friend Bob and ....... we have been married for 24 years now.
Go for it I say! What have you got to lose?!

Just been to the best first date idea for everyone into hill walkers and I was thinking of this thread.

It's called the Banff Film Festival and it's lots of short films about extreme sports.

Even if you're not into doing the sports you can still watch them in a cinema or theatre with a nice glass of something

Take up landscape photography? Geeky, but not too geeky. Some fell walking, but not too much. Most other people in the groups will be men that fall into your categories.

The trouble is, if you snare an outdoorsy man, he will want to spend most of his free time outdoors, so you may be in for some lonely weekends if you aren’t up for joining him. Or maybe that’s a plus?

If you can bring yourself to put on waterproofs, try doing it alone - my husband jokes that if we split up I’d be dating by the next weekend. Women doing things like hiking alone get plenty of male attention (and mostly not the horrible sort), even this middle aged woman. I do not look glamorous or even well groomed when hiking, but if a man is into that kind of thing he tends to like the wild haired, ruddy cheeked look! 😂