I have been through domestic abuse once, he slapped and shoved me a few times, set a lighter in my face and screamed that he was going to 'smash my head in' because I dared to be annoyed about the flat constantly being freezing.
This combined with daily verbal abuse and being cheated on.
I've had 2 other situations in which I was manipulated by men, and another where I was lied to and strung along.
I think it's another DV case i'm scared of.
I had very low confidence for a while and I attempted suicide 3 years ago, but i've had therapy and worked on myself.
I'm career-minded, financially doing ok and in a good place with who I am.
I don't plan to have children, but I am interested in fostering in the future.
There is a part of me which is put off having relationships again. Part of it is because i'm so independent now, I really enjoy my life and I am not willing to sacrifice or compromise anything.
The other part is fear. There are so many abusive relationships out there, i'm scared to fall into another.
Just reading the two horrific stories today about the lady who was burned to death by her ex in Brisbane with her children, the young girl who was murdered by a Tinder date in New Zealand.
There are of course some lovely, kind and caring men out there but sadly I feel they are the minority.
Does anyone else feel this way ? I think being single is a very good choice for me.