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Domestic abuse/coercive control question

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ednatheevilwitch · 21/02/2020 15:00

After leaving a long (15 year) abusive marriage the police want me to go to the police station to discuss his behaviour. He was extremely controlling and coercive and one of the things he did was to make sure that when we got a speeding fine I said it was me driving. To be honest we weren't sure who it was as we both drove the car. But I thought it was more likely to be him. He said that he would risk losing his licence as he already had points and as he had to drive so much for work he could lose his job and we could lose our house. I was too scared of the fall out to refuse him but now I'm terrified that I could be in trouble if I tell the police what I did. I know that he was coercing me but I feel like a total idiot for going along with him. Any help or suggestions welcome as I'm getting worked up about having to maybe give a statement and then them arresting him and pressing charges. Literally can't sleep with it all going around my head.

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Alicenwonderland · 21/02/2020 17:35

Sorry, I just re read that you are waiting on the freedom programme. Is there somewhere else that runs evening courses? You can call women's aid and request an IDVA, it's sounds as if you are experiencing post separation domestic abuse.

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