Poisoned against me

[worriedfordds]

I'm having a really down day. It's not like me at all but I've been reduced to tears by the situation. One thing that really gets to me is that my exH has poisoned his entire family against me and they think I'm evil. He's an abusive man and I had a lucky escape when he left for the OW I knew nothing about. I've no regrets there. But it hurts that I lost all the family I had through marriage. My father in law was a hard loss but there's also a grandma, aunts, uncles, cousins, nieces and nephews, and a sister in law I was quite close to. The kids don't have much of a relationship with these relatives no either as it seems he doesn't bother to take them to visit and they don't bother to visit them. I figure if they could be poisoned against me so easily and no apply any critical thought then they weren't worth having in our lives anyway.
Anyone else experienced similar? How did you cope with it?

I've gone through it, was completely ostracized and even had my exMIL have a massive part in ensuring my ex didn't try and get back with me (we have a daughter, I had PND, I walked out when DD was a few months old, really needed support and understanding). It's been Hell.

I don't know how you get through it, you just do because you have no choice. Just keep yourself busy, write things in a diary if you need to, accept they are not your family and as sad as it is, act like they don't exist.

Been through this including losing all the mutual friends. It’s why I make little effort with these type of relationships. Keep to your own family, kids and friends that you’ve made on your own that don’t know your partner

They probably know it's all him...but just dont want to. But ultimately they are his family so you cant expect to hang onto them.

Dysfunctional ppl like him often have disfunctuon in the family too.

I think you only get through it by getting through it!

You just don’t have a choice.

Some people are in our lives forever and some temporarily. You can be sad but don’t let it be too much of a focus for you. Because it’s completely out of your hands.

Some people are really stringent around who is family and who isn’t, family loyalty etc.

I hope you feel better soon.