Can't share a bed with OH

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Hi all,

Any advice would be greatly appreciated! I love my OH and we've been together 18 months. Things are going fab and we're talking about moving in together which would be great except sharing a bed with him is awful! He snores, lashes out, talks/shouts in his sleep which is not his fault obviously but I'm a light sleeper and everything wakes me up (not to mention getting whacked in the face or kicked in the ribs).

It wasn't too bad when I was just spending the odd night here and there over at his place but naturally as time went on we've been spending more and more time together and I get barely any sleep at all which means I'm super tired and grumpy a lot of the time. There have been times when I've given up and slept on the sofa but he gets offended and it causes an argument. I feel like its starting to take a toll on our relationship because I'm so tired all the time I'm snapping at him over silly little things.

He's been to the doctors and they've tried various stuff including sleeping meds etc.. but nothing helps. I love him to bits and obviously its not his fault- he can't help what he does when he's sleeping but its getting super frustrating!

Either accept you'll be having separate beds for possibly the rest of your relationship or think about moving on (and certainly not moving in).

What's the largest bed you can buy? That's the only other solution if you're adamant on sharing a bed.

I agree... do not move in together.. your life would be hell..

I would ask the GP for a referral to a sleep unit/ hospital. I have a sleep condition, I groan and mumble loudly and grind my teeth. I was referred to St Thomases hospital sleep unit, I was monitored, diagnosed and prescribed medication.

Imagine this for the rest of your life. Don't move in with him. I ended the relationship with my ex over many things but number 1 was the snoring and being offended if I slept on the sofa. Is he selfish in other ways? I bet he is but you've brushed over it.