Think about ex a lot

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I feel guilty even writing this but I want to know why this keeps happening.

My ex was my first love we were together 5 years, we had a bitter break up and he left me with a lot of debt. After meeting my new partner I really dont know if I was 'properly' in love with my ex, because when I fell in love this time it was something I've never experienced. Completely head over heels.

But my ex was like a best friend, romantically it was never passionate but he was comfort.

So I now know the person I'm with now is the complete love of my life, but ex still pops in my head quite a lot, negative and some good. We've been broken up 6 years about.

I'm still paying off the debt he left me in. Can anyone tell me why this is happening?

No idea but maybe cognitive behavioural therapy could work to eliminate thoughts of your ex?

I wouldn't want to so therapy I don't feel its serious enough, I was just wondering if anyone else has experienced this.

I don't know if its guilt, we treated each other awfully throughout them years, I was never good enough. But I treated him like shit too.

When we broke up I wasn't even heartbroken!!. I wanted to stay friends but he turned it incredibly bitter. I never wanted it to go that way.

Now my dp treats me amazing and I treat him with equal respect. He looks after me. I feel lucky.

If I would have stayed with my ex I never would have meet the man I'm with now and would be leading a very different lifestyle (ex was a gambler). The thought terrifies me.