sex without any kind of connection?

[RuffleCrow]

Quite new to OLD. I seems to be quite popular with the fuckboys. but then who isn't?

The thing is, i might be open to a no strings, FWB type thing if any of these men displayed a bit of personality or ability to hold a brief online conversation that was vaguely fun. Are there really women who go for the instant "wanna fuck?" thing without any preamble and then go and meet a complete stranger for sex? And where would you even go? Straight to his house?! - Sounds like the start of an episode of Silent Witness or something.

Here's my most recent example: guy is eating an icecream in his photo. I ask him if there's a story behind it, giving him space to say something flirtatious or suggestive - ice cream is marketed that way, right?- his answer was so boring and nothingy and immediately followed by a basic hookup suggestion. No flirtation, no humour, nothing. Am i expecting too much?

, this did make me smile a little. I flirted with OLD before I met my DH and experienced a lot of this. Some guys just sent ‘DTF?’ Or ‘let’s fuck’ and I always ignored them. I also always wondered whether any women bother with those guys, I just didn’t see how that was even vaguely appealing...

Then there’s the boring twats who don’t seem capable of holding any remote conversation beyond small talk. Again, I ignored them too.

I only bothered with guys I found interesting in the end, they had to prove they had evolved past Neanderthal to deserve a response .

I agree, but the “DTF” crowd don’t even need it to work more than 1% of the time to make the effort/payoff ratio worthwhile!

Thanks @nowayorhighway glad it's not just me. I just feel like i'd have more fun 'taking care of myself' than endless clumsy first time sex with a series of complete strangers. A man who can't even be bothered to make friendly conversation isn't exactly likely to care about whether i get any enjoyment from the sex. Ick. And that's a best case scenario!

I see what you mean @Michaelbaubles. I suppose it comes down to the mechanics of sexual pleasure - pretty easy for a man to enjoy sex even with a woman he's not particularly attracted to. Whereas, especially as i get older and more respecting of myself, i can't see there's anything i'd get out of it.

Oh, there are just as many women getting in on the act and wanting nothing more than a hookup. Why do you think there are so many guys doing it? They are finding plenty of partners willing and engaged.

Wanting sex is one thing. Far be it for me to criticise anyone who wants sex. But it’s nice too, to have (literally, in it’s truest sense) someone who is skillful and who can string a sentence together.

There are plenty of women who take huge risks with hook ups. My brother is single again after divorcing his wife. He has had women with kids in the house inviting him to their house within an hour of swiping. The stories I hear are horrendous.

That's horrible but even without the kids issue, it seems like a huge risk for very little return from a woman's perspective.

Put frankly, the kind of man doing this - who's too lazy to even ask anything about her - isn't going to be interested in making sure she comes too, is he? It's going to be a three-minute-wonder situation (if that) and then bye. The only time i've ever had an orgasm from that kind of quick sex was with a man who was huge, so it was more by accident than by design - and not even that great tbh (and most men aren't on that sort of scale, let's be honest) So what's in it for the women? Am i missing something?

the kind of man doing this - who's too lazy to even ask anything about her - isn't going to be interested in making sure she comes too, is he? It's going to be a three-minute-wonder situation (if that) and then bye

IDK hun as they want 'repeat custom.' Their ideal would be a regular thing, at least as a potential out of various options. So they'll want to try and make you happy with it too, so you want a rerun. Also, every guy's ego is invested in thinking he's a good lover.