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My son

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Emm0 · 20/02/2020 00:40

Hi all, I’m knew to this as of tonight my son (13yrs old) has had he’s heartbroken 😭 I’ve had him physically shaking gasping for air!!! I’ve had to cradle him. He’s girlfriend of 1month & 16days dumped him by text. Is it natural for a mother to b so angry 😡 inside.? X

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Paulolina · 20/02/2020 16:29

Tell him to man up

Bagofoldbones · 20/02/2020 16:32

Just by going off your posts I think your son is a chip of the old block

saraclara · 20/02/2020 16:34

You really need to be calm and not overreact, OP. Yes it's hard to see him in pain, but your job here is to be the calm, strong one. The one who doesn't get angry or over emotional, but who helps him come to terms with it in a way that will help build his resilience.

If you're acting with him in the same way that you're posting, you'll wind him up rather than calm him down.

Parky04 · 20/02/2020 16:35

Blimey what an over reaction. Your DS's future DW will be on MN in the future starting a thread about her batshit MIL!

TheHumansAreDefinitelyDead · 20/02/2020 16:40

Cradling a 13 year old all night is a bit full on Shock

Give him a hug, have a chat, but spending the whole night shaking /crying /cradling and being filled with anger is very drastic and possibly not that helpful to him

Delbelleber · 20/02/2020 16:49

Broken heart at 13 get a grip. You're acting like a 13yr old yourself.

BananaChocolateLump · 20/02/2020 16:58

Shouldn't have a girlfriend at his age anyway.

saraclara · 20/02/2020 16:59

Seriously OP, one of the hardest things about being a parent is remaining calm and capable in a crisis, whatever's going on in your head. The day my daughter sliced her hand open with a kitchen knife, the day we came downstairs to find we'd been burgled...all those other times I forced myself to be a calm and reassuring presence who had everything under control (while inside I was close to panic), were vital to how my kids (now adults) cope with what life throws at them.

You seriously need to get this into perspective and be calm, or your boy is going to be having panic attacks at every single hurdle in llife.

OhCaptain · 20/02/2020 17:02

Wow. You’re both completely overreacting!

The best thing you can do for your son is to help him to not overreact! I have a 13 year old too. I’d be genuinely worried that he was that intense over a girl at that age. And a one month “relationship”! Confused

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