Feeling gutted. I have just found out my ex has got engaged

[adagiok5]

I am so gutted. I went out with my ex for 3 years lived with him for the last year. We were so happy everyday he told me he loved me. Then he went away for 3 weeks in America last July as an instructor on an activity adventure for young people he went with my blessing. Whilst there he met someone else. When he came home I found out that he was texting her all the time. I walked out and he moved straight into her. Six months later they got engaged in Valentine's day. I just don't know what to do with myself the pain is awful

Oh my goodness, I had such a similar experience but at 30. My ex met a girl at Camp America and was essentially in an online relationship with her and an in person relationship with me until I found out the extent and ended it. He’d said he never wanted marriage and kids shortly before my 31st birthday but he’s now married her. She’s 5 years younger and I do think the Green Card plays a big part.

I get how awful it feels. I felt like I wasn’t enough.

I think though that these sort of relationships can be based in a fantasy land rather than reality and I think when the daily grind sets in they will most likely be very tough to sustain in “the real world”.

for you. Time is a healer. It won’t always stings this much and you deserve far better.

It gets easier every time something like this happens @adagiok5
The troughs will get shallower, I'm only a few months in & have just managed to go a week without randomly bursting into tears. So fucking annoying that he has this hold over me.

Hang in there, it gets easier every day only you can't tell that you're improving until another stressor arrives. If you want to dm so we can chat/give moral support offline then please do.