Refusing to show me his phone

[Sesicilana]

I saw picture of him and a woman (her kissing him on cheek) on the phone screen. I automatically assumed they sleep together - he told me he fucked up and went out with a woman on a date, but it didn’t go as far as sex. I told him I don’t believe him and if it’s true to show me his phone with messages from her, because otherwise I’m kicking him out. He said the conversation is private between them too and he is not going to show me, because he doesn’t want the message to go to third party. Am I being unreasonable ? I’m angry he would rather walk out than show me the messages (I told him I expect the worst-sexting and all so whatever he shows me can he only better or match my thought). He still refused ! What to do next

Op then he knows you will have him back. You should know if he is the sort to book therapy for you both to move pass this or not.
If he doesn't then you need to end things. Because it will carry on and I say this because I know. I've heard all the reason and seen him try to make an effort but not actual work or commitment to improve the relationship,

Actually spoke to his ex dp who he also has a dc with and the pattern is the same.

You wouldn't take a picture like that with someone after one date OP. This is an affair.

Hangon, is what the other poster saying true that you were sexting? Is this why you expect he would because you do? I think as a coupe you need to figure out what you want from each other and where the boundaries lie.

OP, your relationship is a train wreck. You both have cheated.

You sexted with a relative stranger (you both are FB group admins) one night recently, but have since shut it down.

In November, you were next to H and saw a photo of a woman’s breasts appear on his phone, with a message saying her boyfriend had given her H’s number. H asked how she was doing. When you questioned him, he said he was clueless about who the woman was. He told you to go to bed, so you did. He had previously expressed interest in having group sex, and posters wondered if the mystery message was connected.

H has been telling you for a good while that you may not be ‘the one’ for him. You separated but are back together. On your thread a few days ago regarding your sexting, you said that you and H not had sex for 3 months and that he is not very affectionate. Today you say you have sex most everyday.

Now you’ve discovered for sure that H has been dating other women. Considering the dodgy photo/message from November, you know that his sleazy behavior has been going on for some time.

You both have cheated. This separation is for the best.