Advice on what to do please

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I'm currently doing a class (similar to an exercise class) and there's a bloke who's one of the teachers and I think he likes me.

Big grin when he sees me, always catch him watching me.

He called me a couple of weeks ago to see where I was as I'd missed the class before, kept chatting.

I have a class tomorrow and he'll be there. Any advice on where to go from here? There are two classes left.

Finish course
Text him back and ask for a date
Simples

I don't know if he's single.

I'm wondering if I should call him to ask some questions about the course, he did say to call anytime if I had any problems or questions. Maybe bring something up that I'm having an issue with tomorrow, talk to him about it...?

Pave the way if you see what I mean?

I would take it slowly..alot depends on what you want too. It is really hard to decipher whether he is being proffessionally friendly or flirty.Does he treat everyone else the same or is he just singling you out? Could he have alternative motives maybe? Like keeping his numbers up for the classes? It is a hard one this one I think. If he is just singling you out and you are confident with that and you like him too then I see no harm in asking him for a coffee...then see.That way you are not exposing yourself to being in a situation that you might have misread. If you like him and he likes you then you have lost nothing! If it is a misread set of signals a coffee is a good way to just be friendly with no one loosing face.That would be my advice if I just wasnt sure.Have fun ,,stay calm stay in control and see what he brings to the table...Hi do you fancy a coffee after class as we all look like we need one? is so open ended you will be able to gauge his intention straight away and if he was just being friendly you will know too without any harm or embarassment being done to either of you...

Thank you both for your advice.

This is my problem as a. he could be phoning everyone who missed the class, be chatty etc that's what I'm thinking.

b. Professional ethics. I'm wondering if he's allowed to 'date' students. Even though we're all adults and it's in no way a 'school' type situation.

c. I don't know if he's single and wouldn't want to tread on any toes.

d. I could pursue it and just make a fool out of myself and the class is part of a centre I go to regularly and I would have to keep seeing him.

I don't have his mobile anyway, he called me on the office number.

Then a simple ...oh blimey that was hard work I am going to grab a drink ..would you like one Dave? light and bright and breezy then see what his response is...you will know then !! Nothing there would be awkward for anyone to accept or refuse and if you see how he responds either way you will be able to know how to proceed.. If he says thanks No I am fine good to see you though catch you next class you will know hes just doing his job ..if he cannot get out of there quick enough with you then he might have been waiting for a green light from you! He might be feeling a bit like you do unsure how to play it too? You never know!!.Good Luck!

He's working, so there's no chance he'd come for a drink, though it's a great idea. (really annoying when people shoot down all your suggestions, sorry)

I'm thinking of calling him some time before the course ends for a chat - because he suggested to do that. And try and get the conversation onto something that may involve doing something together.

I saw him today and I don't think he's into me. I was obviously wrong. Thanks though.

Oh lovely lady ..sorry it didnt go as you wanted it to...I was dropping by to hope to read some good news...not fun is it?! I have misread so many signals in the past its beyond ludicrous..Mind you that said I am the girl who liked a complete randomers facebook post in a music group and ended up marrying him 3 months later so go figure that one out! You just never know whats round the corner...that was 10 years ago and we now have an 8 yr old daughter too ....believe me sometimes I wish I hadnt pressed like !!!!! but I did...Hope next time you find it easier to read the signs..Good Luck and Best Wishes sent

I’d wait for him to make the first move. As you say, he may ring everyone who misses a class but in just so over caution as I have read things wrong before! Suppose if you want to dip your toe in you could ask if he is holding any more classes as you’ll be interested in joining? Let us know how you get on!

Thank you all so much for your lovely advice and support. I feel really disappointed. I did talk to him today for a little while but nothing substantial, he is funny, as in ha ha, not weird.

I'll be back there Friday and may see him again, I don't know.

There were all these lovely looking women there as well and I just thought who am I kidding.

Love the story about meeting your partner on Facebook and congratulations, that's lovely.

I just feel too nervous to phone him now, feel like a bit of an idiot. I suffer from anxiety so tend to overthink things and then talk too much out of nervousness and he'll think I'm mad.

I doubt he'll make a move. There are probably loads of women who like him. He told a really sad story about his dad dying last year and I've noticed he wears a watch which is very unusual nowadays. Obviously his dad's. He said that his dad was panicking and suffering from really bad anxiety and he was sitting beside him controlling his breathing and his dad calmed down. Wanted to give him a hug.