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Ex messaged my friend

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Singlemum31 · 18/02/2020 18:06

Hi all I'll keep it brief, me and my ex was together nearly 7 years, we broke up for good just before Xmas.
He has tried since then to get back till two weeks ago. He hasn't seen our children paid for them etc. Not that he did before 🙄 my friend (not a close friend tho) messages me telling me my ex is asking if she wants to go pub he's rang her and text her....
Arrrh what is it with men. I was quite shocked
I trust said friend in that she wouldn't be interested in him sexually but if he had asked on a weekend and she didn't have plans or her child she prob would've gone 🙄I'm just so annoyed. But not sure why I'm 100% sure I would never go back there but he hasn't bothered with his kids but can message my friend who lives 1min away from me. No one in rl to talk to just needed to vent 🌬️🌬️🌬️

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MikeUniformMike · 18/02/2020 18:11

He'll probably make a move on her.

stayingontherail · 18/02/2020 18:12

Just take it as confirmation that you made a good decision to end it. It will take a while to work him out of your system so I understand why this is taking up your head space, but I think this is just one more thing to add to the pile of reasons why you ended the relationship for good.

BigFatLiar · 18/02/2020 18:13

He's an ex, he can try to connect with her if he wants, its up to her to respond.

ladybirdsarelovely33 · 18/02/2020 18:14

It will still sting even if he is no longer your partner as you have history together and therefore feelings involved.
However I think you need to chase the relevant agencies to get maintenance payments from him.

user1493413286 · 18/02/2020 18:16

She doesn’t sound much of a friend if she’d meet up with him knowing how he’s treated you

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Singlemum31 · 18/02/2020 18:16

He probably would make a move but I'm 99%sure she woundnt go there 🙈
Yes another reason to put in the shit ex box just annoying.
I don't want him back knew a long time ago we wasn't right for each other. Doesn't stop me wondering what he's doing tho and then that message from friend 🙄
Mind is in overdrive now

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Singlemum31 · 18/02/2020 18:20

Like a said we are not that close.
She's a nice girl but she is very much like him drink wise hence why I think he's messaged her.
Has for maintaince he does everything cash in hand so pointless Hmm
Yes I know he sounds a right catch 🙈

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Singlenotsingle · 18/02/2020 18:32

She can have your scraps, can't she? If he's busy with her he won't come bothering you.

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Singlemum31 · 18/02/2020 19:05

Ha yes good point. I'm sure she woundnt tho she did tell me she didn't have to, but that's a good way of looking at it. Next person is welcome to him and his let downs 👌👌👌

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