Did you get through it? Will I?

[springrocks]

Since starting the process of splitting up from my husband I've been ok, all things considered. But I'm feeling very low today and I suppose quite anxious: about the kids, about money, about untangling our lives and about starting again.

Did you get through it ok? Are you glad you did it? I know I've just got to keep moving forwards, I believe deep down I'll be happier and the children will be ok, but right now I feel so tired and everything feels like a battle that may be too big for me.

Any stories of hope and happier lives welcome.

I'm in the midst of it and it is hard. The stupid fucker had the cheek to ask me why I was upset at the weekend (we are still in the same house) - apparently him crying at the solicitors is understandable but he can't understand why I would be sad about it. I know it will be better, I know that even with the difficulties it will bring, I won't have to live a miserable soul sucking controlling narcissist, and that's keeping me going!

I did it and it's the best thing I ever did. You will get through the hard times and come out the other end.

I've got myself in a whole new lot of shit now though! But my ex and children's father has been supportive towards m

Me! That posted to soon for some reason.

Yes!!! Three years on. Loving my life mostly. :)
I remember how hard this part was though. All the doubts and the what if's.

You'll get there. And it will be worth it.

Sorry to hear that Delbellerber (about the whole other load of shit) - roller coaster innit? screams I hope things work themselves out and glad you're being supported.

Richtea - same here, living together. I think I focussed so much on doing it, I probably was naive about how hard it would be and how sad I would feel at points. You're right though, even with the difficulties it will be better. I feel like I'm being ridiculously calm and adaptable for the most part but I guess the hard parts just hit sometimes. Also I feel very stressed and a big like I'm wading through fog at the moment!

Have you read this poem? It's amazing. It's helping me a lot. hellopoetry.com/poem/5249/the-journey/

It's not easy, but by ensuring that you keep communicating and that the kids needs are central you can get through it and look back and realise that life is good. I've still got to file the legal side (waiting for 2 years thing) but we are both happy and the kids are taking it in their stride, though mine are young adults. Each situation is different but to my surprise we are remaining good friends and he seemed very upset that I was moving away