Is this cheating?

[duke748]

Hi all,

I would appreciate a few people's input on this....

Would you consider this cheating?

3 year relationship. They live together. Person A says that they want to break up. They spend 2 weeks living in same house after this. Often end up in same bed, cuddling and kissing, but nothing more.

Person B kisses someone else on a night out and gets into bed with Person A that night for a kiss and cuddle.

Is this cheating then?

I'd appreciate you input, and I'll reveal more about the situation in a bit, I just don't want to influence people's opinions.

Thanks.

he has taken you for granted... and he has continued to do so , but encouraging you to be physical, knowing how you feel about him

i would move on, and find someone who is going to treat you well, with respect and with kindness

sometimes a clean break, and not being friends is better in the long run

and i am sorry you are feeling bad

sorry you are hurt..solution put on rem very loud

Technically, it wasn't cheating because you'd broken up.

BUT, he's a real loser for acting like that and taking advantage of your feelings when he knew you still loved him.

I know you still love him, we've all been there.

But this is your cue to move on so you can learn to love yourself enough to know you don't deserve this and you're better off without this in your life.

Because he acted like a low life.

Ok, with this additional info it's clear that your ex was a monumental arse and you're well shot of him.

As you broke up with him because of his behaviour and not because you didn't care for him any more I can see why you'd be upset, albeit a bit unreasonably.

Duke - you ditched him because of his behaviour before you told him you wanted to separate. You knew all those things about being treated badly by someone who professed to love you before he kissed someone else.

Once you had initiated the break up, he apparantly acted no worse than he had before.

I can understand that you feel upset that you were under-valued during your relationship by someone you had loved...but think it's a red herring to focus on the event in your OP. But all very galling if you did love him.

Were you hoping that saying you would finish the relationship would tug him back into line and treat you better?

Hi guys.

Yes in a small way I did hope he would pull his socks up, but I knew that he wouldn't. I was still looking for a new flat, and moved out as soon as I could, so it certainly wasn't an idle threat.

You are all right in that I am better off without him. It just changes things from 'we still care about each other and wish each other the best but we wern't right for each other' to 'he's an inconsiderate BLEEP who couldn't be bothered to spend time with me but a week later is wining and dining some other girl'.

I know either way its a good thing and I'm trying to move on and look after myself.

Thanks for all your messages.

I'd cut off all contact with this one if there weren't any kids involved, tbh.

L-O-S-E-R.

Nope, person B is not cheating. He or she is being mind-fucked. Either they want to be together or not. Getting into bed for a kiss and a cuddle when you have just broken up, unless there's a bed-buddy arrangement (which with no sex is unlikely), is ridiculous. Heartbreak will follow.

OK, just read your other post here and take back most of what I just said. HE is head-fucking YOU! You are better off out.

"Ok, with this additional info it's clear that your ex was a monumental arse and you're well shot of him. "

how do you come to that conclusion? i still don't see what he did wrong.
fair enough he acted in a way that the op felt was taking her for granted so she broke up with him, nothing wrong there thats her entitlment. but once she decides to break up with him her entitlments over him completely stop and if he has found someone he wants to marry/kiss/shag an hour after they broke up i don't see why he shouldn't because it might make the person who just dumped him feel bad.