What would you do with his stuff

[ddog18]

Okay so i'll try and summarise, been seeing someone for a while, he moved in 3 months ago and gradually got lazier, messier, dirtier etc. He has now left and gone to his mums. Call me stupid but I tried desperately to sort things out as I really did see a future and was blinded by his mess etc.
I thought we could keep things amicable as it was only a short relationship and we were friends before it started.
But I've been informed by a friend who knows their family he is telling everyone I was abusive and impossible to live with, I kicked him out, compared me to his ex who hit him etc. Which is plainly not true.
He has lead me on all week saying he wants to come back and has completely messed with my head!
My original plan was to be the 'bigger person' and send the rest of his stuff down to him.
But now I have found out he is telling people these lies! I feel like chucking it all.
(It's been an awful week but I feel relieved now I know it's done and he's not coming back, especially now I found out what he's telling his family)
What would you do? be the bigger person and not give them something to talk about or burn it out in the garden?Only thing that has stopped me doing the latter is that I know I'm a good person, but I have nothing to prove anymore I guess?

Box it all up, leave it in your front garden and tell him to come and get it ASAP!

For context aswell he lives 2 hours away and told me the reason he left was because he was 'homesick', but telling them lies about me so they feel sympathetic don't worry I have learnt from this and will be keeping my guard up thoroughly from now on! It's hard because part of me wants to show them I'm not as bad as what he's saying because I'm that sort of person but also do I care? just need some opinions on what others would do!

You need to be able to demonstrate that you contacted him to let him know you have his stuff, that you will continue to store it for e.g. 14 or 21 days for him to come and collect, after which you will dispose of it. Send this by text, email and recorded post.

It doesn’t matter what he’s been telling other people about you, to protect yourself from a small claim you can’t just throw his stuff away.

Pick a day he'll be off. Text him the night before saying your belongings will be in the front garden in bin bags from 11am. Please ensure you collect them as bin day is xday.

Put them in bin bags obv

Tell him he has x amount of time to come get it or you're throwing it out.

Clearly his ex wasn't abusive to him either. He likes to make up horrid shit for sympathy.

Well you're well shot anyway OP, sounds like emotional problems galore.

Agree with comtesse- you need to protect yourself from a court claim, advise him you want it gone and arrange a time for him to collect it. I would leave it outside at that time and not speak with him. He'll probably use it to manipulate you if you do- like he clearly uses manipulation to influence his own friends and family into feeling sorry for him.

I'd wonder if his ex is as bad as he says tbh. Everyone clearly thinks she abused him too and he's a victim. Seems quite the pattern.

Sounds like the kind of man who is a pathological liar, one who possibly fishes for sympathy. Stay away from people like this.

What stuff does he have at yours? Anything of value or just a few pairs of greying y-fronts?