Husbands interest

[Irma1997]

So not long ago I realized that my husband is into female supermodels, female athletes and female fitness trainers/models. He basically surfs instagram to check them out. I'm not saying it's the only thing he sees but it's quite dominant on his insta. Now I dont wanna be a controlling wife but this kind of shit really makes me feel insecure and weird cause those ladies have got a really good body and are mostly posting pics in their sexy clothes or bikinis. How do I get my husband to relax this habit of searching up women on instagram.

You can't. This is who he is. Accept it or leave.

Surely it's normal to look at fit women? I'd be more worried if he was looking at obese women.

Urgh it would creep me out and put me right off him to be honest. I'd feel like he was some kind of perv.

I'd be more worried if he was looking at obese women

Eh?

Hmm yea I couldn't be bothered about this. If he was commenting "Ooh you so sexy fit let me drink your bath water" then yes I'd have a word but it seems like he's just looking at women that he finds aesthetically pleasing. I guess it's the same as someone buying a lads mag back in the day. Something hopefully he will grow out of

Maybe join a gym if you feel insecure or let it go and enjoy your life. Too much overthinking in MN. Men are visual and most look at images for stimulus. It honestly wouldn’t bother me.

Men are visual and most look at images for stimulus

No, human beings are visual, sight is our first sense, men aren’t different to women in that respect, it’s just an excuse used for pervy men.

OP I think a lot of men would be bothered by their partners behaving the same way, so personally I’d do that, give him a taste of how it feels so that he will have a little more empathy when you discuss it.

Dunno really

You can't get him to stop doing it, it's pretty normal and I think you need to try to find peace with it as it's a strange thing to try to control, maybe look at what you find visually stimulating and start yoga or join a gym. I like looking at pictures of beautiful people, it's completely usual.

Is it really normal? I’ve never been with a man who does this, it summons images of 14 year old boys who can’t let go of their penis for long enough to take their week old cups and plates to the kitchen from their bedroom. Do grown adult men really behave like that, obsessing over women on Instagram?

Surely it's normal to look at fit women? I'd be more worried if he was looking at obese women.

Why?