Fleeing DV. Kid's schooling?

[anlon17]

I left my family after domestic abuse escalated and have been holed up in a temp place.

I couldn't find any place close by where DC goes to nursery so have to look in to the bigger town close to us. Also cant find nannies or babysitters to pickup and drop off. I work full time and nursery closes at an odd time .

Moving to town means I will have to put her in a new nursery too. I know my ex wont sign the form to allow her to join the new nursery (nursery requires both parents to sign)

My question is would I be doing something incorrect by law if I move to the town and find temporary childcare without informing the father and await court order for child arrangement. The reason I ask is because the tenancy is for a long term and I may end up losing a lot of money if court thinks I should not move. There is a non molestation order in place.

Anyone with any advice?

Bumping this up for you x

Did you post other day. Ring womens aid for advise go into a shelter. Nursery wise wont need 2 sign what they gna do for the crap sperm donor dads who arent involved? Go looking? Your over thinking it. List for a nursery that has good hours and carry on.

Plus move towns onwards and upwards

If a non molestation order is in place you dont need to contact him in order to get permission as you are the primary carer i think? Speak to Womans aid or even social services will be able to tell you but i dont think you do

How can a nursery possibly demand that both parents sign? What if one is unknown, or stationed overseas, or dead, FFS?

Nurseries frequently take children who are in temporary accommodation - including, but not exclusively those fleeing domestic violence. Having two parents to sign is just bizarre.
Many children have no contact with a second parent.

However - speak to women's aid and get proper advice. Don't rely on randoms on the internet - you have no idea which of us are spouting rubbish and who might actually know what they are talking about.

Single parent here. I've never been asked for another parent's signature on anything for school or nursery (good job since he had all sorts of problems with addiction and violence). Yes, speak to Women's Aid and Gingerbread. Good luck OP and well done for doing the right thing here 💐

No, you’re not doing anything wrong by moving and using a new nursery without informing him. You have parental responsibility and are entitled to do this. What he’ll need to do is apply to the court for a child arrangements order if there are no contact arrangements in place. At the moment, provided you’re not taking your child out of the country you’re entitled to enlist them in whatever nursery you like
(I’m a DV worker).

I’ve never heard of anywhere needing both parents signatures? My ex is absent through choice so how would that work

Thank you everyone. I will ring up the school and ask even if there is non molestation in place if they could go ahead without his signature. Bizarre rule I agree!

Feeling more strong today. It is such a hellish journey. I do hope there is an end to this.