Feeling trapped and overwhelmed

[Curleywirley20]

I know the answer to this but I need to hear it from others. I don’t feel like I can talk to any of my family and friends about it.
My DH is mentally unwell and has been for years, he won’t take medication due to the potential impact on his career. We had our biggest argument to date last night, I caught him texting his ex wife inappropriately and he went mental (He had also been drinking). When I confronted him he was shouting and screaming, called me a c* and that he wished I would die many times. Slammed multiple doors, followed me around the house screaming at me. When I asked him to leave me alone he wouldn’t. He smashed his head against a wall and split it open so it was bleeding. He woke up our 5 month old baby, when I went into comfort him he followed me in and turned on the light and kept screaming at me. It was honestly the worst night of my life and I almost phoned the police.
Today he’s like a different person and really sorry and emotional. But I just feel broken and numb. I know I should leave but I feel trapped.

I’m sorry this is happening to you.
I think you should start planning to separate from your husband as soon as possible. This sounds extreme and it’s abuse.
Is there anyone you can go and stay with to give you a space to think?

Do you have family or friends nearby who you and baby could go and stay with?

Your husband has choices. He could take his meds and stop drinking but he chooses not to.

You also have choices. You are not trapped and you don’t have to stay. You need to think of your own safety and that of your tiny baby.

please, please listen to that answer you already know. do it for your baby and for yourself. that level of reaction would be unacceptable even if it had been YOU inappropriately messaging your ex. the fact that it was HIM sending inappropriate messages makes his reaction all the more extreme and all the more alarming.

Really sorry to hear what you’ve through. It sounds terrifying. Do you have family / friends you can talk to? This isn’t normal behaviour from your partner. It’s abusive. If he’s mentally unwell and refusing to take medication then this puts you and your baby in a very vulnerable position. You need to speak to your GP to make them aware of your position. Thinking of you. You need to put yourself and your baby first xx

Can you go and stay with family / friend? Doesn’t sound safe. His behaviour is awful, you don’t have to live like this. for you....

Get your poor little baby out of this environment immediately. Ask him to leave, if he won't then move to your mum's temporarily. I'd be worried for the safety of you and baby, both physical and emotional.