Advice needed

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Hi, first post but hopefully you can help me clarify if I’m just being too fussy.

Been in an on/off relationship for a while, started as FWB.

We are both in our thirties, I live in my own place, he lives with his mother, only child, wants for nothing but mother is very controlling, very over protective almost narcissistic.

He has had an intimate issue the last week or so and as any gf would do I’ve been helping him however I’ve not seen him on his own in the last few days so rather than cope by himself or make arrangements for us to see each other he has had his mum look at this intimate issue for him which I find very weird and I’m just uncomfortable about the whole situation.

Am I overreacting? Would you be concerned if your partner/boyfriend/husband had his mother examine/look at there intimate area?

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Intimate issue? As in, something wrong with his penis? If that is the case then sorry, it IS weird.

What’s the issue in the intimate area?
Maybe he’s embarrassed to discuss it with you?

And also, why the hell is he asking his mum to look at it and not seeing a doctor??

Thanks for the replies,
Thankfully not his penis, it’s his anal area.
His not embarrassed to discuss it with me, neither is he embarrassed for me to look, he doesn’t really do doctors, hasn’t been to the doctor in 9 years.
I just find it very weird that his okay with his mum looking.

Thankfully not his penis, it’s his anal area.

That's not any better OP.

How old is he?

He is 35, him and his mum have a weird relationship at the best of times but this has just freaked me out.

So he's a 35 year old man getting his mum to check his piles?

I think it's time to move on OP.

Yes, 35 years old and getting his mother to check his backside.
Maybe it is time to move on. I’m not really sure where to go from here, we’ve been through a lot to get where we are now.

I should of also made it clear that his mum does not know that we are an item, she just thinks we are friends so as far as she is concerned he is single and hasn’t had a gf for the last 10 years

Yes weird. Walk on from him.

He's 35, living at home with a controlling mother, and he won't tell her he's in a relationship. To top it off, he lets mummy look at his arsehole because he's too immature/ridiculous to see a doctor.

For fuck's sake, run for your life. It's unfathomable you haven't already.

This isn't a good relationship. His mother will always be his no.1 girl.

Tell him to act like an adult and consult a healthcare professional about his piles, then walk away from him without a backward glance.

He doesn’t have a very good relationship with his mother, they are always arguing but he has no other family apart from her so feels as if he has no choice but to do what she says, life for him is a lot more complicated than the outline I’ve given.
I would love to turn and run but I don’t have it in me to leave him, he has attachment issues, emotional issues.
I just am struggling with the fact that he is still getting his mum to check his backside, even today when I’ve looked at it this morning, she is having a look tonight and he doesn’t seem embarrassed about it, I genuinely think that he thinks it’s normal

Sorry I’ve had a chuckle at this post. Sounds like you and his mum are fighting over looking at his ass 😂

But in all seriousness Yeah it’s odd him asking his mum to have a look at his age. Can you elaborate more on the issue? Is it something like piles that cream can be bought over the counter? If not then as pp have said a doctor needs to be taking a look, not mummy.

I’m not saying she is a weirdo but I’m guessing she will like that he’s come to her with his issue(s) as you mention he is an only child, she will still feel like he needs her. He probably goes to her for advice on body problems albeit maybe not as intimate as the current one