Just ended toxic relationship...

[raspberryjo]

So Thursday morning ended relationship after 4 years and 2 daughters. Being continuously cheated on, lied to, manipulated. He didn't take it well, initial anger, throwing my stuff out the house. The finally moving out and now begging for me back. Saying I'm the love of his life and he will do anything to prove it. I'm really struggling. Much as I know it was the right thing I'm also very sad and grieving the good times. Tell me it gets easier ☹️

Well done for throwing him out. That was the hardest bit. Now you just have to stay strong and go as low contact as you can. Ignore all messages unless they are about the DCs. I promise it will get better. Take one day at a time and try and get some support in RL 💐

It will get easier - honestly!! Though there will be periods of feeling low - as is natural - you will find there comes the day when you realise you're pretty much through all the rubbish times.

I think it is safe to say he won't be able to maintain any change - it's all facade and it's a very rare man indeed who genuinely does change his ways. All I would say is bear in mind that when you're in a low moment you might be more susceptible to these promises to change. It's all manipulation. Just make a pact with yourself not to make any decisions re letting him back home during a low moment. He's following the script, isn't he?

Well done you. Stay strong. This bit is love bombing. Watch some Angie Atkinson and Stephanie Lyn coaching videos on YouTube. I let mine love bomb me back but it just wasted another 2 years of my life as he tried to grind me down to nothing. Love yourself and love your kids. You got this

Yes we did split briefly last year and I gave into and took him back, really don't want to this time as it just ends it pain and tears. Just very hard as he's their father and hard not being a family anymore. But talking about it helps. Thank you all xx