I have been with my partner for just under 4 years we have a 2-year-old son and been living together for just over 2 years.
I am at the point of the relationship where I’ve had enough and want it finished.
After nearly every argument she ends it with change he’s name meaning change our sons surname and she is gone. In other words, she won’t leave until he’s name has been changed so i don’t find him. We could argue over silly things like our son drawing on the walls in the flat that we have which I have recently painted. I would tell our son its not ok and give him a piece of paper instead but she would interrupt and say it is ok you can draw on the walls or if he wants something that he has seen high up and I say no she always says it ok give it to him.
So whatever I say she says the oppersite.
She refuses to let me take our son to see my family on my own unless she comes and if she doesn’t want to go then he can’t come which is effecting the relationship that I have with my family.
If i take our son out to the supermarket or park on my own she is calling me constantly saying where are you and asking if I am with some slut when in fact she knows where I am.
I can’t take my son anywhere on my own without coming home to her being angry.
She is originally from Romania and only has her sister here in the UK who she hardly see’s, she doesn’t work either so doesn’t have money to find somewhere else to live.
We have a joint mortgage together ( have had the mortgage for the past year), she paid the deposit £10K and I pay all the bills meaning I am working just to survive so don’t have any savings.
The relationship is toxic and its effecting my mental health. She refuses to seek help and tried a number of times to top herself in front of me and our son.
I don’t have money to move out so what can I do?