I've been with DH for over 10 years. I feel like the relationship may have run its course, but DH says he loves me, is really happy with me and doesn't ever want to give up on our marriage.
He said he wanted children, but then kept putting it off. Eventually we began trying, although he would never initiate sex. He's always had a low drive and isn't physically affectionate, but I've accepted this is how he is.
After a few years (I'm now 36 and he's 47) and no pregnancy, I found out we both have fertility issues and I was accepted for IVF. He refused, saying he doesn't want to go down that route. I mentioned adoption or fostering, that's a 'maybe' from him, but I feel he's just saying that because he thinks it's what I want to hear. He says we can have a happy childfree life, too.
He has no friends, no job (his income comes from investment), no hobbies and he's in the house 24/7. I work two part-time jobs, volunteer, go to the gym, and have a few local friends I see so I have a bit of a life. I never get time to myself and he usually tags along with whatever I'm doing, when I'm not at work etc. I am 100% of his life.
I feel empty, like each day is something to get through; whenever I bring up the idea of separating with DH he gets distraught. He wants us to move from the busy town we live in to a rural place in the country and thinks that will fix things.
He's a lovely person, very loyal, kind, thoughtful in so many ways, and we have the same sense of humour - but I see him as a very good friend that I care about and I wonder if he'd make more of a life by not being with me.
Is this as good as it gets, should I be grateful he loves me so much?