Relationship with DH has been on the brink of separation for a while. We are together at the moment due to having young DCs, one of which has complex needs and so it's easier that we are here together to help each other.
Last week, we had sex twice and it was great. I don't know why it happened, but it felt good at the time and I enjoyed the long naked cuddle afterwards. I enjoyed him making time for us and coming to bed early and I enjoyed sleeping in his arms.
Ever since, he's been his normal self: grumpy, snappy, obstructive, messy, agitated and loud. I decided to separate the 2 and thought, we had a great time, I'm so glad we had some loving time together, but during day to day life,he's still intolerable and we still need to work towards separation.
Then Valentines Day happened and I was pleasantly surprised by a beautiful boquet, card, dine-in meal and a restaurant booked for next weekend.
I was really happy that he had made such an effort, but he's again been intolerable to live with. I even went to the gym on valentines night for a bit of headspace and positivity.
On second thoughts, I don't really want to go out for a meal with him either as he will eat his food in silence or just want to complain about other people. I don't actually enjoy his company anymore. I really, really wish I did. I really want to make it work, but I find him miserable and negative to be around that I can't bare it.
I would help him work through his emotions better but he's so stubborn and reactive, failing to ever acknowledge a problem but always suffering from it with his mood and his body language. I just don't want to be around him.
Would it be mean to tell him it's over and to stop trying? Or let him try? I just don't want to hurt him.