I’ve been married over 5 years together 8 with 2 young kids 1 & 4. My parents are dead and I have no financial back up in terms of leaning on family. I also live in the UK but I’m from another EU country.
For the past year my H has been suffering badly with his MH. He’s under the MH team and psychiatrist for depression. He’s been off work most of the year and on stat sick pay. During that time I was on mat leave so money was really tight. I used the cash I had access to to support us.
We fight all the time, it’s absolutely exhausting. He’s being made redundant and I’m now working all the time. I do freelance work and I’m back to my day job which is 3 days a week in a professional role.
My income would cover the bills but leave nothing extra at all. Like nada.
I think I may earn too much to qualify for any help. 25K plus my freelance which would be 100 a day a day a week... I doubt he would have to pay anything as he currently has no income and would want to share custody.
How did you know when you end your marriage? I’m afraid I will loose my house which is really important to me, and be utterly skint. He will want joint custody which I get. I just feel scared.
We rarely have sex, maybe once every 6 weeks. He just always seems pissed off with me. When he makes an effort it lasts around a day. So I have become cynical about that.
I told him we had to go to Councilling and he has finally agreed after months of saying no that I would just slag him off and manipulate the councillors. Because I’m good at all that stuff apparently.
I’m so so tired. He’s an excellent father and primary care giver really since he’s been off sick. He gets up at five am with the baby. I worry I wouldn’t be able to cope on a practical level without him but I also still love him and want to fix things, I just wonder if it’s gone to far.