Should he have come looking for me?

[HuskyloverI]

Day out today with drinking involved. I went to bed at 7pm for a nap, feeling the effects. Woke up at 11pm, to find DH snoring on the sofa. Decided to go on the laptop and surf. We are in a town house, so he was asleep on the middle floor, I was on the ground floor....he woke up at about midnight and went to bed on the top floor....I'm obviously not in bed, but he hasn't checked on where the fuck I am. What if I had answered the door to a weirdo and been snatched away? I find it so odd, that he can see our empty bed, and just flop into it, without wondering where I am.

Hang on a minute OP, you woke up and found him snoring on the sofa.... how do you know he didn't come in, find you asleep (and safe), decide not to disturb you, so goes to the sofa.
You're assuming he didn't come and find you first - how are you doing this? do you have cctv or something??

You should go wake him up and pick a big fight about it.

Don't you just hate it when your partner refuses to stalk your movements?

One of the weirdest threads on here

Of course he shouldn't have come looking for you, you're an adult.

Are kidnappings of grown women popular in your area?

He probably used a bit of common sense and realised there are a million more plausible explanations.

Maybe he even heard you.

You were both pissed. Did you worry that while you were napping someone might knock on the door and kidnap him?

He could have been kidnapped 20 minutes after you fell asleep, and be half way across the country by the time you noticed he was gone. Probably best you only sleep in shifts from now on.

Seriously op he could have come and checked on you 10 mins before you woke up. He could have heard you go downstairs. He could have staggered to bed without really waking up.

He could have assumed that you were downstairs on the laptop and threw himself in bed.

I mean why would he think someone knocked on your door and kidnapped you. He would have heard the door for a start.

And does this happen alot? Is there a speight of adults answering their doors at night and being kidnapped off their door step? Why would that even enter his head?

I just know that I would look for him in the same circs.

So the lesson you take from this is a) people are different and b) don't set up mental traps that people don't know they're walking into.

I wouldn't check up on the whereabouts of someone I knew was in the same house as me.

Is there anything else to this or is it a stand alone issue?

Is he normally considerate, caring and makes you feel safe and valued? Do you feel happy and secure in your relationship, or stressed, unsafe and anxious?