Don't know what to do... just need to share..

[Cloudbubbles]

This is hard to write. But I need to share this as I feel quite alone and don't know what the right thing to do is. I feel like I'm failing.
My DS 13yo is asking, almost begging, me to leave DH.
It's a long story and a bit complicated. But DH "blows up" a couple of times a year. Normally aimed at me. But it's been aimed at my DS twice in the least week.
I want to try and settle things down so we can go back to normal. But I've been shaken by how my DS feels.

If your DS has seen, heard or sensed any of the repeated blow ups towards you for years then he also has experienced DA.

Sounds like he may have internalised this continually over the years and is likely already in a deeply traumatised state so that the attacks now directed at him make him feel terrorised.

Have you anyone in RL to talk to?

There is no going back to normal

You now have a choice between your marriage and your son. You may be prepared to put up with his blow outs. Your son is not

Yes we need to know more info.

I didn’t have a great relationship with my dad (it’s much better now). We used to really rub each other up the wrong way when I was a teenager and have blazing rows. I remember asking my mum why she married him and why she wouldn’t divorce him.

Looking back - yes things weren’t great, and actually I think my mum put up with more than she should have at that time. However, she (rightly) told me that I shouldn’t say that and they are still together now and seem happy.

Now of course it might be a totally different scenario for you, and it’s relevant if he’s the bio dad or not.

But it depends on the context really as teenage years can be tough with lots of conflict.