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Have you ever been molested?

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sravani0 · 13/02/2020 20:00

Hello everyone. I'm writing this because I don't know who to share this. I was around 12 to 13 yrs old and my cousin used to molest me every time. We used to live in the same street. He used to make me play and used to take me to bakery. Everything was good. I used to call him brother. It started slowly. He used to do tickles and when i laugh he used to continue dng tickles by touching my waist and from there he slowly used to touch my breast and pinch it hardly. I was very confused and didn't know what was he doing and couldn't share this to anyone. Honestly i used to face so much pain whenever he used to do that this way. It were just growing and i used to have so much pain. I couldn't tell this coz i didn't know what was going on bcz i didn't have any knowledge about those things. By growing up i realized he used to molest me and i still couldn't share this to anyone bcz we all are a family and if my father comes to know he would kill him. Today i had to share this with my mom. My mom was so much in pain hearing all this.i stopped talking to him many years ago and recently we had a clash in the family and that guy was blackmailing me saying i had relationships and would tell my family about it. Honestly he has no idea about whats happening in my life. I yelled at him saying u used to do such things with me and now he clearly lies on my face saying he never did so. I remember this i do remember what happened with me. How can someone lie about this instead of being ashamed. This is hurting me so much

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Lozzerbmc · 13/02/2020 21:56

Im so sorry you went through this, its truly awful. Im glad you had strength to tell your mum. Do you want to report him? I think you need to talk this through with a professional to help you.

12345kbm · 13/02/2020 22:25

I'm really sorry this has happened to you and well done for reaching out for support and confiding in your mother. You're so brave.

There's an organisation called The Truth Project specifically for those who have experienced child sexual abuse. It was set up to create a place where survivors could share their experiences and be heard which is so important.

Another organisation you may find helpful is Napac which is for survivors of childhood abuse. They have specialised support groups and can give you further advice and support.

Flymetothetoon · 13/02/2020 22:33

Yes. I was 9 and he was the son of a neighbour that lived 3 doors down. He lured me into a disused garage on the pretence he had something to show me (he was around 14/15 yo) He ordered me to lie on the floor and I was scared because I was wearing a new coat and knew Mam would be angry if I came home with it all dirty.
He proceeded to lie on top of me and simulate sex (I didn't know this at the time) but I knew it felt 'wrong'.
When I got home I went straight to the bathroom desperately trying to get the muck stains out of my new coat 😞

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