Should I leave him

[Confusedforreal88]

Hi bare with me this might be long

Background been with partner two years and we have a 13 week old baby. Things have been very stressful and we have been arguing loads. He was away with work last week and we argued the whole time.

When he came home I had a nosey on his phone and on Facebook messenger he had a message from An old FWB saying ‘why did you add me on snapchat write me then block me’

I asked him and he admitted to it and said that he and his work collegue were having dinner and talking about girls they had slept with he was nosey and added her. He then said he realised what he done and deleted her. I am so disappointed in him. He is adamant he didn’t write anything so I asked him to reply to her fbook message and say ‘what did I write to you on snap chat’ and she replied with ‘what??’

He is begging me to move past this but I’m so upset with him. I don’t know if I can trust him again. He says he will spend his life making it up to me but it was one mistake and he is sorry. He is away working this week and has been relying constantly to me even though it’s a very intense course.

I was cheated on in my first marriage and I’m just so sad and disappointed in him. Should I give him a second chance?

Look him in the eye and tell him that if he mis-steps again, it's over.
Make sure you mean it.

I just think there must have been more to them if he just had to contact her again

Why were you reading messages on his phone OP?

Is this how you want to spend your life? Suspicious, fretting, checking up on him?

No I don’t want to spend it like that. Genuinely was just having a nosey we are open with our phones I wasn’t looking for anything

Hi this is about more than an inappropriate message. Why were you arguing loads? Did you not trust him generally?

He blocked her on his own, which means he realised his mistake. I would forgive him. It's not his fault that your previous guy was dodgy.

You're bound to have trust issues after first marriage, add in a 13 week old baby!

I think he realised his mistake and blocked her.

Talk to him and make it clear you won't be messed around or cheated on again.

Good luck but I wouldn't rush into anything.

I’m just not sure if he has spent the week talking to her then blocked her when he got home so he wouldn’t be caught out. This particular girl I have always wondered about and it was only two months ago he actually admitted they had been fwb. She also has had a boyfriend the entire time and a child with him who is 8. So there was definitely cheating on her boyfriend going on

I used to accept really piss poor excuses from my ex so I’m just really cautious not to do that again

Sounds like he was just curious but it didn't go anywhere. In most posts like this o say LTB but in this case I don't think there's much reason.

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