Have you ever had a EX come back?

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4 years ago I fell for a guy,we were happy etc then he broke my heart and we never spoke again.
3 years ago I met another guy and once again he broke my heart.

A week before Xmas guy number 1 sends me a message on FB saying he was sorry and asked me out for a drink.

Last week guy number 2 also sends me a message on FB saying sorry too and wanted to build bridges.
Obviously now I have zero feelings for either of them.
I just think cheeky sods after all them years.

I was dumped a month ago ..do I have to wait another 3 years before he comes back ?
Is this a trend ?
Do they all come back eventually?

Men are like boomerangs the bastards always come back! Be in a few weeks or even years but they always do

I think they get dumped/desperate for a shag so raid the little black book

Ignore both, They broke your heart they don’t deserve a response!

They sound like typical dirty dogs. Block 'em.

bloke here

they are recently single and/or just fancy a shag

meet and contact at your peril

Both been ignored.
I look at them now and cringe.
It's like they have a radar for when your over them.

Happened with every one in some form or capacity. Just testing the waters when something hasn't gone well for them so always worth an ignore!

I had an ex from 2013 send me a friend request on Facebook at the end of last year, how wonderful..

It's also like a radar for when they know you're happy, no thank you!

Explain to him, when he does inevitably come back, that if you want boring repeats, you watch Dave.

Yes many many times. And I stupidly went along with some sort of amnesia or delusion that they did want to catch up as friends. It inevitably ended up the same way as before.

Ignore them! I love it when they come crawling back. I said to my ex husband "why do feel like you can walk back into my life like you're an option". Needless to say, he looked very puzzled and dissatisfied. It felt even better knowing I had a younger model around the corner too

I don't know how they have the bottle to even message.
It's a great feeling tho when you have zero interest anymore.

I’ve got one who tries to come back about every 18 months
I’ve tried explaining that living with him was horribly stressful, that I still can’t cook and I still haven’t got rid of my embarrassing old car, but he’s not getting the message..

Yeah.

One bizarrely waved at me on Facebook last year...we hadn't seen each other since 2002.

I ignored

Mine contacted me on Valentine's day as he was having problems with his new gf. Turned out she was pregnant! Poor woman.

They all come back. Take great delight in saying no to them.

Wow pretty sure my ex will never come back as he hates my guts (horrible divorce).

Yup, got back in touch with an ex who finished things, several years later.

Reader, I married him. (10 years ago, still happily married).

Big difference was, we’d both changed (me especially), and he treated me with respect when finishing things first time round.

Also... I wasn’t about to take any pissing about second time round.... and he didn’t piss me about. No games, it was ‘easy’

It can work.

I'm happily married with kids to my ex! 8 year break but it was an an amicable split.

Peakingduck how similar our tales are- I've never heard of anyone else who has done this!

An ex of mine from years ago stayed friends with me on FB. I saw he got married, had kids etc. All of not much interest to me. We were never in love, it was all very casual at the time.
He suddenly got in touch a couple of years ago, his marriage had ended blah blah. I met him for a drink as a friend (a mix of pity and curiosity). Had a chat, went home alone. He started messaging me more after that. When I turned him down for a relationship (shag) he went mad, angry, pleaded for a bit then blocked me everywhere 😂😂 What a dick

how similar our tales are- I've never heard of anyone else who has done this!

A couple of exes from about 30 years ago got in touch on Facebook.

Recently another ex from a few years ago got in touch out of the blue.

To be honest I would give one ex another chance as I can't find anyone else I like as much as him.

Yes, without fail exes/ past dates will rear their heads again. I think it is lack of imagination.

How's this for a record though... one bloke I saw when I was 19 (some 14 years ago) has just last week messaged me on FB with the divinely inspired message 'hey, how are you?'. He treated me like shit at the time.

Ah cross post with beach and waves who beats my 14 years into a cocked hat!

What's the saying "Don't reheat old meat" or something like that.

Yes. After 17 years! I told him to jog on!

Muckycat - lol - the ones from 30 years were school friends that I dated