BF can't be trusted

[crazyinloves]

Been together nearly 8 months.
Always had suspicions that he might not be loyal but couldn’t be certain. Not sure if he’s ever cheated but I wouldn’t be surprised.

Things were good in the beginning, I’m not sure what’s changed. He can be very flirty when he’s had a drink but I know that’s not an excuse. A couple of weeks ago a close friend (who he’s never met before) suggested that she could add his number onto WhatsApp and start flirting with him to see if he would bite. I said no to the idea, probably because I knew he would and I just didn’t want to face the truth.

I finally let her do it last night (she said that they’d spoken on tinder last year and that she’d kept his number / we met on tinder that’s why I suggested it). Stupid fool actually fell for it as well. They’ve been messaging all morning whilst he’s in work and she’s sent me screen shots. He’s not been overly flirtatious but still not the way someone would behave when they have a partner. She’s asked him if he’d like to meet-up at some point but he hasn’t replied yet. He’s just sent me a text asking how my mornings going and saids he misses me.

I know this probably all sounds extremely childish and that any normal healthy relationship shouldn’t be this way. I just want to see how far he will otherwise I will just keep on making excuses for him. Feel so deflated and let down, I thought he was different.

Relationship has come to an end

Oh dear. I guess some men really never "log off" Tinder. Not good at all. I wouldn't have let your friend message him though. You've opened Pandora's box ....

I think it ended when you became distrustful of him tbh. Now that you've seen more, unless you want to hang around till you catch him in the act, then....

Seemed the only way I was going to find out was by friend messaging him. He seems reluctant to meet-up with her but only because he can't remember who she is from tinder, not because he has a partner. Hasn't mentioned anything about being in a relationship. Shady bastard! I'm trying to keep my cool and not blow cover.

End it. There is no trust, it will eat away at you. Don't become that person. You owe yourself better.

He's suspicious. His radar is buzzing, which is why you got the text and why he's being hesitant. Tell your friend to back off a bit. If she's pushing, he'll suspect someone is/you are out to catch him red handed.

Although you already KNOW who he is, so sticking around is your choice.

ways had suspicions that he might not be loyal but couldn’t be certain
So why stay with him for 8 months???
What is the actual point?
Seriously.
Look at your relationship boundaries.
Raise your bar.
Get him gone!

Has anything else happened since the texts this morning?

Why are you wasting your time playing games? Tell him you’re not interested.

Just get rid. 8 months together and he hasn't already pointed out to her that he's no longer single? Twuntbucket.

Yes - he said he would meet-up with her and told her that he was single. I sent the screenshots to him and confronted him about it, told him it was over and to get his things from my flat (we don't live together but he has clothes here). I'm so ready to fucking burn them all tbh. He called me a mental case and blocked me. Fucking wanker. If he things he's ever coming anywhere near me he can go fuck himself.

Sat here in tears watching tv, can't bare to eat my dinner and I made a bloody lovely spag boll so he's ruined that now too! He's a waste of space

Thank you @Delbelleber - in the long run I know that I will be glad I found out now, just feels so shit atm. I feel so disappointed and let down.

Good luck 🤞
Deep down in your heart you knew what it will happen so eat your food and forget about him 🙈👍🌸

You should definitely be thankful you found out now. Still hurts though.

There's another thread on here at the moment, think it's titled dumped by text.

The op is awesome, have a read and don't be tempted to let this lying piece of shit back in your life.

Be sad, but be glad you know now x

Well done, sweetheart. You're not crazy at all! We're all proud of you. Don't allow him back into your life. He's trash.

Eat your dinner love, celebrate that a shitty idiot is out of your life and you have no bond with him.

He's called you a mental case and blocked you- Yeah, bet he feels good to turn it around and make you the problem. Anything to not deal with his arseholery of a self.

See this as a win and enjoy your spag bol. Good riddance to rubbish!

The spag bol will keep for tomorrow.

just thank your lucky stars you aren’t financially tied to him or have any of his children.

Block his number

Spag bol is actually nicer next day!

Be thankful you now know for sure he's an arse, OP. Can you imagine his face when he saw the screenshots?

You'll get through this and come out stronger.

I hope your friend really is as close a friend as you think, OP.

You've found him out, either way.

Well if he manages to sweet talk your friend Into actually going on a date - then theres's two idiots right there !!!
8 months is a long time just to forget someone, even if they are a xxxx, so write the notes that you want to send to him but don't, look at the old messages and pictures, feel sad for not finding a good one but also be kind to yourself.
Time is a great healer so take however long you need but don't let him get to you !!!