DP weird reaction

[CMMum88]

Tonight we were chatting about our days and I mentioned to DP that someone had told me his ex was having a baby. He has reacted really badly to the news, it seems like he is very upset by it and is angry at me for telling him??

For context, they have been split up 7.5 years and he broke up with her. We have been together for six years, own a house and have two children!

Not sure what to think of this reaction, should I not have told him?

That would baffle me too to be honest.
Maybe whilst they were together, possibly she got pregnant, had a termination against his wishes and now to be told she’s having a child, it’s brought it all back to him.

That’s all I can think of really.
Could you try talking to him?

That’s very odd. You didn’t do anything wrong at all. Has he said why he’s upset or angry?

That seems off,it's been a very long time since they split.He's in a committed settled long term relationship with a house and 2 kids involved.Frankly the only thing missing here is the wedding rings.

How serious was their relationship?,were they together a long time/live together/engaged etc?

That is weird. Maybe something happened with them that you dint know about.

I'm glad other people think his reaction is weird, not just me!

He won't tell me why he is having the reaction he did and it is making me feel quite uncomfortable to be honest. They were together 19-24ish I think, we met when I was 25 and he was 26.

My ex got engaged last year and I felt pleased for him, even though we are not in contact, I guess i told him as I thought he would be pleased for her.

Yeah, odd considering you have children together.

Did he somehow envisage his ex living a celibate, nun-like life since the split?

sounds like she was the one that got away, even though he finished it (according to him). That must leave you feeling like he settled for you, and its shit. Tell him how this is making you feel, OP. He needs to give his head a wobble and start being grateful for what he has, stop taking you for granted and consider your feelings. The self absorbed twat.

Is it possible that's he's uncomfortable you've been speaking to a man at work about a personal issue - I.e jealous and angry. Hence the reaction. Nothing to do with his own ex or a pregnancy? Who knows.

Perhaps they split up because she didn't want children and he did.

I haven't been speaking to anyone at work? A friend of mine who still lives in the city that we used to live in and who knows his ex told me.

@bendylikebeckham that's exactly how its making me feel.

Time to kick him up the arse, OP. He has wallowed enough in this ridiculous fantasy of what could have been. He has 2 beautiful children with you and a relationship that he shouldn't be putting at risk over reveries about the past.

Oh sorry, I misread. When you said you'd been talking about your days at work and you told him someone had told you his ex had had a baby, I read that as someone 'at work' had told you his (own) ex had had a baby. If you see what I mean. My error.

That is rather odd to be so upset after all this time and him doing the breaking up.

Do you have any plans for marriage with him?

Do you bring her up/talk about her too often maybe? The fact he said he wished you hadn't told him might suggest he has no interest in her and you are annoying him by bringing her up?

How bizarre. This would make me feel very uncomfortable to be honest. Why such a strong reaction? I think you need to get to the bottom of that.

What did he say when you asked him why he was upset?

I would not like his reaction... my so called friend sent me a screen shot of my ex with his new girlfriend announcing they were pregnant.. 6 months or so after we split.. I was shocked as hell. Just confirmed he was cheating and I didn't even have a massive reaction like your DP after 7 years

Did she maybe not want to have kids with him but is now happy to have them with someone else? This happened with friends of my sister's