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Should I leave my boyfriend?

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keetee3 · 11/02/2020 19:53

Should I leave my bf of 2 years?

Should I stay with my boyfriend or am I with the right person ?

Sorry I know this is really long but please read If you’ve been in a similar relationship or have any advice at all please help me!!!

I’ve been in a relationship for nearly two years now and I love him.He couldn’t be more caring. if he senses I’m not being myself / if I’m stressing about something / if I’m ill and when he does care he’s extremely supportive and knows exactly what to say.Hes also really helpful for example if I’m in a rush for work he will feed my cat or get my clothes ready .I am also a really reserved person and it takes me a long time to be myself around people however I can fully be myself around him and I have no barriers it just feels like I’m talking to my bestfriend.He also has a really nice family and I get on with them so well and he does with mine as well. I can trust him 99%of the time. The only reason I don’t is because of certain videos / pictures he liked before but it doesn’t really bother me.We also get along really well and can have conversations for hours as we are similar in a lot of ways .He also does things I ask for example I enjoy doing things such as walks/picnics&baking and although he wouldn’t choose to do anything like that he does it because he knows I enjoy it.One of my best memories with him was Whilst we was on holiday as I had never felt so happy.We enjoy the same music and films and share similar opinions about a lot of things. I also get jealous when I see other girls talking to him/texting him a lot.

But.... when we argue sometimes he says sorry and we just forget about. but sometimes (I would say about once a month ish) it’s like he turns into a different person.he will shout (when I ask him to stop multiple times as it’s my parents house so it’s just disrespectful why should they have to listen to us arguing ) cry/storm out of my house or come up to my house.I have to ring him and beg him not to come up to my house as I live with my parents so I don’t want them to hear us arguing as they will probably change there opinion on him once they hear how he shouts but he just threatens to come into my house unless I come out and speak to him and this could be at stupid times of the morning.But the arguments are literally about the smallest things what ‘normal ‘ people would just move on from quickly but he goes off as though we’re about to break up but he always ends up apologising in the end. This really puts me off him as he just turns extremely immature and I’ve told him to stop multiple times and a couple of times he’s stopped but he always ends up returning to his dramatic ways.He also isn’t really an outgoing person he just enjoys going to each-overs house . For example on holiday I wanted to go out at night a couple of times however he was never really up for it and I could feel he felt like I was nagging him when we did go and then we went on a walk and found a beach and he didn’t want to come into the sea or go on a banana boat he just wanted to go back to the apartment or when our friends suggest things eg festivals or bowling he just doesn’t like doing any of these activities . I am also really desperate to go traveling and work abroad however he doesn’t want to . I’m not saying there is anything wrong with this obviously each person is there own but I just feel myself getting frustrated at him sometimes when all he wants to do it sit in and play video games.He also has a negative attitude about work and his education as he is a bit lazy and relies on people to do things for him a lot of the time.

We’re only 18 and we’re each overs first for everything so I always think how do i know I’m with the right one if I have nothing to compare it to ?and I don’t want to waste my teenage years being with someone if I’m not going to be with them for the rest of my life.i do love him and the thought of not being together upsets me however his immature reactions to arguments and the couple of incompatibilities are confusing me?Do you think I could last with him forever ?

OP posts:
stophuggingme · 11/02/2020 19:57

No it won’t last
Dump him and do what you want

You won’t be this young and carefree forever.

12345kbm · 11/02/2020 19:58

Didn't you post this yesterday? I think the overwhelming response was yes, dump him.

Peignoir · 11/02/2020 19:58

What kind of photos did he have saved?

It seems like he sometimes finds it hard to express himself in the correct manner, which makes you feel uneasy.

I'm going to come out with it, excuse the delivery. He's a bum. Work shy? Video games? What good is he going to do for you, sweetheart? It seems like you have wonderful plans ahead of you. Guys like this hinder your progress and development.

YesThatsATurdOnTheRug · 11/02/2020 20:01

Absolutely 100% dump and then block/delete/run. He sounds like he will ramp up that temper before long and you do not want to be around for it. Also he sounds bloody boring!!!

jillandhersprite · 11/02/2020 20:03

Yes

Missarad · 11/02/2020 20:29

Book a girly holiday and see how u feel afterwards

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