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Helping him cope with addiction/depression

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powerbaby · 11/02/2020 19:23

I think my partner is getting depressed. We've been together 4 years, and although I moved out years ago he still lives with his mum, as we're saving to put a deposit down in London in the next couple of years.

I say this because I think the cause of his depression is his mum's divorce. Without going into messy details, his step-dad is trying to evict him. He's been withdrawn the past few weeks, mentioned a couple of times that he's quite affected by what's going on at home (he has a teenage sister so he sees how it's affecting her too). He is a very introverted character and it takes a lot for him to open up, but we usually get there eventually. I will add that he does have money, he could afford to live on his own, and he knows that he's more than welcome to come and live with me in my tiny flat. He's not being made to go onto the streets and he has a great support network of friends.

Tonight, he told me that he has been struggling with addiction for the past few months. I was not aware. He has not told me what substance he is addicted to and I didn't push for too much information (yet) as it came as a bit of a shock and I know it would have taken a lot for him to admit what he did. He said he has been receiving some support through his company's help line (I don't know what you would call it but they have a 24 hour service for employees going through stuff due to the high-stress nature of his work). I gently encouraged that if this is serious he will need to see a professional(s) and that I'd be with him every step of the way.

I think I just need some support really. I don't know what to do next. How do I help him, support him... has anyone ever experienced something like this before? Thank you X

OP posts:
12345kbm · 11/02/2020 19:34

He seems to be really struggling OP. Sounds as though he's using his Employee Assistance Programme which provides free counselling and advice.

I'm wondering if he should see his GP and get signed off work for a while.

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