Too good to be true??!

[JKitten]

Help... i need opinions on wether there might be a catch that I'm too 'in lust' to see... I've met a guy I'm really falling for but it's scaring me. I worry I'm too into him and I'm gonna end up hurt.

Im 37, divorced, 2 primary school age children. We met on a (very rare for me!) night out in a bar. He approached me and we got chatting.
He's a similar age to me with no kids and says he's never really had a proper relationship before (I feel this is true based on comments etc from his friends). He's 'dated' lots of women and I'm not his usual type at all! His usual type seems to be glamorous, big boobs, fake hair, fake tan, face full of make up. Not divorced, tired, Mum of 2 who rarely wares make up and is the complete opposite of glamorous! So this does concern me. He is gorgeous. He has money. He could have any of these women, so why me? I know this sounds a bit '50 shades' - rich sexy man meets plain Jane... but that's exactly what it is!!
He says he's not really had a relationship before because he'd never met anyone he wanted that with. He has spent a lot of his time on his career to get where he is today and says he focused on that rather than relationships which I can understand.

When I ask him 'why me?' he says (cringy) things like there was just something about me! He says he was, and still is, very 'drawn' to me in a way he cant explain!!! He says he thinks I am beautiful and I'm very 'real'. He always initiated meeting up etc at the start (I was trying to play it cool and not get too emotionally involved!)

He hasn't given me reason to doubt anything he is saying or his feelings etc but I feel like it is too good to be true and worry there is something about to slap me in the face and bring me back to reality! I feel it's more than me just being insecure but maybe it is just that- I cant understand what he would see in me.

That is a good point that is probably really obvious to think about but maybe one I hadn't considered. I could tell you exactly why me and ex were good together (up until the point we weren't!) We had the same sense of humour and similar opinions on things. But other than superficial things I like about this guy maybe I don't know him well enough deep down.

And also the point about him being there for me & the kids. I really can't see him fitting into family life, us spending time with the kids together as a family. But maybe that's just because it's early days.

I know what kind of person he was in the past which was work hard, party hard. Going out to fancy clubs, drinking heavily, always with a woman on his arm. Someone I would have nothing in common with as i would probably view as shallow and arrogant. But he's older now and doesn't do that anymore. He says he's spent a lot of time being that way, always keeping women at a distance and not really letting anyone in. He said when we met, he enjoyed taking to me and felt a connection that he hadn't had with anyone before. He's always been honest about his past and even said on our first date that he didn't really do relationships and I was ok with that as it was a bit of fun. But after seeing each other a few times he said he wanted to see where it went and i think that's when I got scared and started to wonder ' why me' and now feel I'm getting in too deep with my feelings. I mean- I'm aware it could all just be a line and that's why I worry. That and the fact he could suddenly turn round and say 'actually this isnt what I want' but by then I've invested so much and will be so hurt. But that's the thing with relationships isn't it. You have to be willing to take that risk. So I think I need to work out if I can see a future and if I'm willing to take that risk, without being clouded by the charm and flattery.

@muddypuddles12 DoloresStormborn But the fact that your initial response says far more about you than anything else, hence my original comment about bitter MN posters.

No, it really doesn't. @DoloresStormborn made a good point.

Also, just a heads up that calling women 'bitter' for expressing negativity or scepticism about male behaviour makes you sound like a massive misogynist.