Why is he so angry?

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I started seeing a guy from new years eve onwards. We have known each other a while but reconnected after some years (I'm 24 he's 30) we got on so well and spent alot of time together. However the past couple of weeks he seemed distant and stop texting as much ect. Now he's ended things. I'm pretty gutted but I just don't get why he is so angry at me? There defiantly isn't no other woman but I know he suffers from depressesion. I just don't know how to go about this. Do I just move on or give him some space?

How do you mean angry? What's been said?

in what way is he angry OP ?

Very blunt messages, saying I am the one with the problems. He just dropped off some bits I left and he seemed so cold. I asked him if he had brought my shoes and he had forgotten them and he just seems like a different person. It's like he's thinks I'm the one who has caused all his problems and thinks ending things will sort his problems out. IYGM

He's projecting OP.

Why did he end it?

As a general rule, though, you are better off avoiding angry men. If he calms down, please don't even think of getting back with him.

Yes I do feel like he's projecting everything on to me like I'm the cause of his problems ect. He ended things cuz I asked him if everything was okay as he seemed distant and very offish and he said we would be happier apart but there was no talking it through he just ignored my messages and today after a couple of days of no contact he text me to arrange for him to drop my things of and that was it x feel pretty shitty tbh but after this there won't be any going back for me

I know you must have been upset but he's done you a favour. You could've wasted years with this guy and that's how he would've ended it ultimately.

Thank you. I know luckily we wasn't together long but I keep thinking of the good times we had at the beginning. I just think now he would of ended it regardless and it's his problem not mine. I just hope he doesn't come back whilst I'm getting over him! X

Its not you its him. Some men do cite depression as an excuse for behaving as such but he is angry because he is an angry man. What exactly did you know about him in respect of family background?. Another red flag here with this man that you apparantly missed was the fact that he was blaming you for his behaviours (abusive people always blame others). Such men really do not like women at all and infact hate them. You've indeed been fortunate its ended this early on.

The good times you had with him were likely on his terms too. It was all part of an act designed to draw you in and to get you invested. Do not let this man back into your life; block him from contacting you on any form of social media.

I would have a look at Womens Aid's Freedom Programme as this could be helpful to you going forward as well. Men like this can and do further mess with perhaps already weakened boundaries. Love your own self for a change and build yourself back up again.

I knew of his family and background. He rushed things as soon as we started dating then he withdrawn within the past couple of weeks saying he had depression and he was sick of constantly telling me he was depressed. It was only natural for me to ask him if everything was okay when he went from being lovey and wanting to see me to not texting back as much and not wanting to see me. There is no contact between us now however he has abruptly told me he would drop of the rest of my stuff on Thursday. I've been blaming myself for how it ended but now I'm seeing that whatever I would of done he would have reacted in this way. Just feel proper shitty about it and confused. Xx