Taken for granted

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Been with do for 4 years and the last few weeks I just feel like it wouldn’t matter if I am there or not. We don’t live together but I am still excited when I see him. He seems to have become ‘comfortable’ with me, which in itself is lovely and reassuring but it’s all become too routine. I want a proper cuddle instead of him half cuddling me whilst on his phone, I want him to appreciate when I wear a new outfit, maybe just a little time that’s just us. I know life gets in the way and we both have a lot going on but I don’t want to fall into the mundane life and taken for granted. He’s pretty poor at communicating, always has been,I’ve felt sad all weekend playing second fiddle to his phone, the TV and everything else. I need to talk to him don’t I?

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Does he make an effort to do anything for you. Or make time for you?

Yes you do need to talk to him. Say, 'I would like you to....' or 'I'd like it if you....' or 'I need you to....'. He's not a mind reader. Talk to him

He’s good with the practical stuff and is amazing in many ways but just doesn’t get the little things, feels like he knows I’ll always be there and I’ll always be ok. Probably my fault too as I’m a kind of ‘put up’ with it kind of person. Just want to feel loved!

So tell him what you need!

Spell it out to him if he wants to make an effort then you can see how it goes if not move on

Sadly there’s not much you can do with someone who doesn’t give you what you need.

You can tell him, then feel like you’ve forced it and wonder why he doesn’t do it naturally.
When he forgets in a few days you’ll feel frustrated because you’ve told him what you need and you’ll feel he doesn’t care.

The only way to get through to some of these men is to pin a list on the fridge.