Girlfriend relationship anxiety

[Mike2482]

I’m a single guy who’s fallen for someone who’s in a relationship that’s failed she has children,it goes amazing for a while then she has an anxiety attack and cuts me dead it crushes me when she does this but I hang on then a few days later it’s as if never happened I’m in love with her I’ve told her I’m willing to play the long game but this is killing me inside this isn’t about sex either we really do connect help.

I feel sorry for both of you - she is getting crippled by anxiety and it's soul-destroying for you. She needs some help with the anxiety. I would suggest some counselling if she can afford it. If not, then at least try getting into mindfulness. Have you told her how badly her withdrawal affects you? Can the 2 of you talk relatively calmly about it? Perhaps she might be able to make some small gesture if connection to help you feel less distraught? You too might find mindfulness useful to manage your relationship anxiety. Good luck.

So she is with someone else, seeing you, declaring she loves you, then backing out each time?? Sounds like she is not anxious, she is having her cake and eating it...

Has she left the failed relationship or is she still in the relationship? It's not very clear in your post.

She's in a relationship. If she wanted to be with you she'd leave.

She is in a relationship she tells me it's over but can't leave yet for the sake of her children i think my judgment is clouded because of my feelings for her I don't know how much longer I can take how she cuts me dead but I do love her that's what's so hard

Do you believe she'll ever believe?

Presumably she'll tell you she's not sleeping with him blah blah.

If she can't leave for the children is she waiting until they're all 18?

She's playing you for a mug and you're letting her.
Find someone who's actually available.

do you believe she'll ever leave*

My head tells me she won't but my heart says she's will but deep down no she won't leave him she says he partner is a serial cheat and generally a bad man but I can't comment on that I obviously don't know him and I know what I'm doing is wrong because she's with someone but I'm in love

What do you think love is?

Do You think it’s being in a relationship where you give your all but you get crumbs?

It’s great you are in love, but it’s pretty obvious she doesnt love you.

She's done it again this morning then messaged to say let's talk later Ive told her I can't keep getting crushed it's to hard I just hope I can be strong.

Time to block her number so you don’t get sucked in again

She's not going to leave OP, not anytime soon anyways.

Love, there's nothing here for you. You need to leave it, if you want a chance at happiness. She is not going to give you what you need and deserve.

Only you can make the necessary decision to free yourself from the pain you're experiencing x

Didn't you post about this the other day? And lots of other threads too?

Life’s too short. Block her, she’s playing you

Didn't you post about this the other day? And lots of other threads too?

Was wondering just that....

Basically, what are you expecting from this thread?

J no o this is the first time I've ever posted on here

You're worth more than someone who keeps changing their mind - it sounds like she is stringing you along. Don't wait for her to end her relationship, just move on and find someone you deserve. Sorry if it wasn't what you wanted to hear - but you are setting yourself up for a lot of heartache otherwise.

Oh for goodness sake, get some self respect and stop shagging a married woman!

There are plenty single women in the world, go and find one who is free to have a proper relationship with you.

Yes your right but sometimes it's not on purpose who you fall for