Odd (controlling?) sibling behaviour

[Orangeblossom78]

My brother has been a bit odd in recent years. First asking for permission to do stuff (like getting something for parents)- I told him juts do what you want you don't need permission from me

Now they are trying telling me what to do. Again something regarding parents. Not sure what it is about, has been since they married.

we are grown adults in 40s, not children!

Any insight welcome on how to handle. I'm just ignoring it at present.

I think that's the best approach, imo.

Ignore and be very firm on your boundaries.

Give yourself space from them.

Does he have anxiety?

I think you need to give us more information.

Has his personality changed recently? How does he try and control you, can you give specific examples.

I think it has come about since the parents have got older, having to deal with them perhaps. I am NC with one of them, they are not easy (divorced) Quite a difficult childhood. Yes, maybe to anxiety. Not sure.