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Getting my ducks in a row

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CraicMammy · 09/02/2020 10:01

I asked my H to leave two weeks ago, after the verbal abuse he promised would never happen again.

We have two DC 6 & 3

We own our house with a mortgage. He works, and has a well paid job. I had a job of equal status until we had children, since then I’ve been a SAHM dealing with severe PND.

I no longer want to be married to my H, I’ve felt so much better since he left.

I am estranged from my family, and isolated from friends 100s of miles away. Since H left I’ve started looking for jobs and am looking after the children with far greater success than he ever thought possible.

My question is, what do I need to do to get my ducks in a row? What information do I need to gather together for my solicitor? Can I apply for a single person’s council tax discount if H doesn’t have a fixed alternative address?

I only claim child benefit for one child because H said claiming for 2 would banjax his income tax.

I literally have no idea if I am entitled to any benefits.

Any advice would be very gratefully received, thank you 😊

OP posts:
RandomMess · 08/03/2020 08:27

It's a blip, don't pressurise your self to have an immaculate house. Less is more when it comes to possessions and makes it much easier to keep it tidy. I used to get my DC to tidy up before they got their "pudding" after dinner - usually a custard cream or similar!!

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